Thinking Magically™ | How Well Do You Know Your Own Magic?

What matters most is not what your obstacles are but
how we see them, how we react to them, and whether we keep our composure.
– Ryan Holiday (The Obstacle is the Way)

I get it.

You’re a Magician. [A clap of thunder is heard.]

You create things. [More thunder . . . a little rolling kind this time.]

The world bends to your will. [Dramatic music plays.]

The Universe conspires for your success and happiness. [Big, echoing kettle drum finish.]

Still . . .

Something is standing in your way. You continue to wake up each day or go to bed each night with that nagging feeling that you ought to be more than you are or you should be doing more than you’re doing.

What is standing in your way? And how do you keep this from happening time and time, again?

So, today, let’s discuss how to recognize the first sign of a Magical Challenge.

I’ve said before that Magic is not just what you think about. It is what you DO.

The biggest hinderance that all Magicians face is not their intent. It is not their desire. It isn’t even their ability to imagine a particular outcome.

The biggest challenge we all face is moving from wishing to doing and then on to having. In other words, most people simply won’t commit to the time and energy and deeds it takes to manifest a result. If you are going to be consistently successful and habitually happy, you must place your dreams in the order they deserve.

If you don’t think your dreams deserve a first place setting, then why should they appear for you in the “first place?”
Your desires, passions, dreams, and imaginings have come to you for a specific reason. They fulfill a particular purpose. If you don’t DO what is necessary to bring them to life, they will wither and fade away. I assure you that, if you want particular types of success and happiness, you have to dedicate yourself to making them happen instead of continuing to wait-and-see or living through hunches and reactions.

Let’s try this . . .

Take a moment and find three adjectives that fully describe your relationship with your Magic. Adjectives describe attributes. For example, I have often described my own Magic as:

Powerful.

Profound.

Positive.

(In fact, that’s the type of impact I dedicate myself to having with others.)

What are yours?

Still having some difficulty coming up with your adjectives? Do this, instead:

What are three adjectives that do NOT describe your Magic. In other words, who are you not?

Now take those three non-descriptors and write out their positive opposites. Fun stuff, huh? What have you now discovered about yourself and your Magic?

George Bernard Shaw (in Mrs. Warren’s Profession) wrote: “People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

Given the three adjectives you’ve chosen (or discovered), what are you now willing to do to make your desired future happen?

The first indication that your Magic is “not real” or “out of balance” is that you find yourself inconsistent in your steadfast and resolute actions to bring your imagination to life. When you lack that consistency, you send yourself internal messages that your Magic is false and when you start down that path you begin to feel like an imposter.

When you don’t have distinct and clear lines about what is and is not good for your Magic, your life becomes a blurred mess.

Magic is not a casual activity.

Magic is not about reckless deeds.

Magic is not a passing fancy.

And it will not tolerate sloppy handling.

Can you commit right here and now that you will start being detailed oriented and protective and deliberate in crafting your dreams and narrowing in on what has to HAPPEN to start living an ecstatic life?

“But,” you say, “you don’t understand my particular life. I’ve got real problems right now that need my attention and I can’t play around with the Magic you talk about.”

Many have said the following, but I like this particular version attributed to Abraham Lincoln: “It is said an Eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent him a sentence to be ever in view, and which should be true and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him the words: ‘And this, too, shall pass away.’”

I understand and appreciate the challenges that each and every one of us face. Those challenges and problems and obstacles are in our lives for a reason (even though they might not feel so good at the time). Part of getting to know your own Magic is also learning how to rely on and use it as the challenges “pass away.” Too often, we give our Magic lip service during the good times and don’t believe we can rely upon it in the bad times.

Take the time, today, to really start to examine your relationship with your Magic. Get to know it better. I think the two of you will like each other!

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . would you like to learn more about how to create a life of Magic? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

 

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | The Toiling Person’s Guide to Taking On Magic

I am the greatest.
I said that before I even knew I was.
– Muhammad Ali

An interesting thing happened on the way to my new book being published. You have to choose categories for your book to be found at the retailers sites and in their stores.

The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life is about happiness and success. Great delight comes from feeling happy AND feeling that you are a success.

Happiness.

Success.

They say you must choose one. They’re mutually exclusive categories, I’ve been told. They’re not a combined category.

Isn’t that odd. That we apparently compartmentalize our well-being and our accomplishments so that they don’t integrate. Perhaps that’s the hidden challenge we ultimately all must face.

So I decided to take a stand. At the risk of compromising the book’s overall ratings, I chose BOTH categories. I believe that to be a whole person you must be happy AND successful. Not happy OR successful.

And I know such ecstasy is attainable.

And this has nothing to do with belief. Beliefs are a dime a dozen.

This is about knowing.

I want you to know what it takes to be successful and happy.

Williams James was a philosopher, physician, and psychologist in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. He wrote about many topics including metaphysics and mysticism. He and I share the same birthday, by the way! He once wrote: “Success or failure depends more upon attitude than upon capacity successful men act as though they have accomplished or are enjoying something. Soon it becomes a reality. Act, look, feel successful, conduct yourself accordingly, and you will be amazed at the positive results.”

Immanuel Kant before James, in the 18th century, also said: “Act as if the maxim of thy action were to become by thy will a universal law of nature.”

There’s even an entire 20th century book from philosopher Hans Vaihinger entitled: “The Philosophy of ‘As If.” Vaihinger wrote: “It must be remembered that the object of the world of ideas as a whole is not the portrayal of reality – that would be an utterly impossible task – but rather to provide us with an instrument for finding our way about in this world more easily.”

Think about that.

If you want to be successful AND happy, you need only:

1.  Act as if you are successful.
2.  Act as if you are happy.
3.  Just act.

“That’s absurd,” you say. “It’s laughable to suggest that success and happiness can be achieved and obtained by pretending.”

Well . . . A great many very successful and happy individuals have used the “act ‘as if’” principle.

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Let’s backup a moment and get an understanding. I am not suggesting that a rose-colored glasses approach to life is the path to ecstasy. Far from it. I’m recommending that you ACT like what you who you want to be and ACT like you already have that which you desire.

Do you want to be a millionaire?

What does that LOOK LIKE? How does the type of millionaire you want to be ACT? How will your life be different when you’re a millionaire?

You can ask the same questions for anything you want as an outcome.

Once you have your personal answers, then the process is simple.

Using our example:

1.  Act as if you’re happy because you already have a million dollars.
2.  Look as if you’re successful because you already have a millions dollars.
3.  Fool me (and the rest of the world) into believing you have a million dollars.

Give this a go and you’re going to find out that you get instant energy and a push in the direction of your dream.

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This “As If” concept has even been used to great effect in something now known as the Raikov Effect (or Deep Trance Identification technique). I first read about this system in Adam Smith’s book, The Powers of Mind (I believe it was called Artificial Reincarnation in the book).

The technique is straightforward – you first determine who you want to model and then take on the physical actions and mindset of that person. In other words, you ACT AS IF you are that person. Think of it as a form of Method Acting (for those of you in the entertainment field). Simply put, method acting involves an actor creating the thoughts, feelings, and actions of a particular character in order to bring forth the desired performance (outcome).

You can do the same thing with any result your heart desires.

You carefully consider the reasons behind what you want to achieve. You either find someone to model or create such a model in your mind. You imagine the emotional state of someone (or yourself) doing, being, and having what you want to achieve. And then you ACT AS IF you already have it.

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Most of us are incredibly busy with our lives. We have family to attend to. Health issues to address. Money to earn. I get it. You’re too busy to make all this work. Use the foregoing technique and I assure you that you will instantly start to see and feel results. I don’t think you’re too busy for “instant,” are you?

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . would you like to learn more about how to create a life of Magic? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

 

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Lighting Fires in the Ordinary Land of Weariness (Chapter 2)

(A quick note: what you are about to read is a portion of a larger project. I don’t quite know where this is going, yet. I normally don’t post “unfinished” musings. But, I’ve been writing to you for quite some time about getting outside your comfort zone and thinking outside your comfortable box so it’s only fair that I do the same thing. Here’s to being uncomfortable and thus getting more out of Life!)

LIGHTING FIRES IN THE ORDINARY LAND OF WEARINESS
A Collection of Over-Adventures
For Those Who Fancy Something More In Their Lives

by
Scott Grossberg

CHAPTER 2

A HOLE AND A CORNER

 in which you learn that being on a stage is a lot like being in the real world, there are long-standing traditions for magic-folk, and sometimes you must hide what is exposed

You stand behind a large lowered curtain on a large raised stage in a large nostalgic theatre with a large expectant crowd largely waiting for you – and only you – on the other side. As is your calculated wont, you are single-minded in your focus (if you were double-minded or triple-minded, naturally you would need the show’s costumer to refit the neckline for your clothes, and there is simply not enough time for that right now). You move your greasepainted face but a hair-slitting distance from the solitary curtain as you narrow your eyes and sneak a peek there through the small hole that has been careful made in the drapery. The colorless house lights are up and the brilliant stage lights are down, leaving exposed for you an unsuspecting audience.

You gently brush against the heavy hanging veil with the damp-from-excitement palms of your hands. The crushed velvet drape is no longer smooth, but feels like tiny pebbles that you could skip across a calm pond with little trouble at all; the once creamy texture now gone knobbly from one-too-many times and one-too-many touchings. There is the faint smell of the lack of anything that closely resembles imagination coming from the material. It’s as if the soft curtain is caustically coming down hard on you – both literally and figuratively. “This is old hat,” the curtain sneers in silence so as not to be heard by anyone else. “My dearest friend, go ahead, try and impress me. I’ve seen it all, already.” You make an internal note to return the curtain’s soundless yet unearned rebuke with a well-cut piece of your own mind after the show is over and after you have an actual well-cut piece to give. You make a further note to point out to the curtain that it is glaringly still a tad peevish because of the hole that was left in it without so much as a polite “how-do-you-do.”

Looking out from your hiding place, you visually rummage through the spectators; mentally, you pick their pockets, you pick their brains, you pick the locks to their hearts so expertly that they don’t even notice. You will return to them what you took in good time, but not just yet. (Good time happens when time is well-behaved and any performer will quickly tell you that, just before a show, time is anything but courteous and certainly nothing to wink at.) Leaving no patron unturned, you scrutinize, evaluate, and consider the experience you are about to give them. (In fact, if you go over them with a fine-toothed comb any more, they will all have new hairstyles. In some cases, that would be an improvement. However, in polite company one does not go around combing other people’s hair unless they are named Willy or Nilly. Neither, by the way, is sitting with the crowd.) Still, you regard them further; it is their dauntless curiosity you are consuming, it is their bold desire you are feasting on without narry a second thought (perhaps because you are single-minded). This throng can never profoundly, plainly, nor palpably appreciate that, when you finally appear before them, you are in league with them; you are superbly giving them what they believe they superbly want.

Your theme song now starts to play. With each note, the audience stirs as if electrified. The house lights wink straightway off as the stage lights wink straightaway on (making you wink from the twinkling of your eyes as they reach an understanding of sorts with the glaring brightness). And there you are . . . doing what few others in the world could ever dream of accomplishing . . . center stage with your arms commandingly raised and the crowd already clapping like crazy.

You gesture for spellbound silence. The crowd – thrilled – hushes. The music –thrilled – swells.

Four white panels seem to materialize and move about by themselves on the stage. And, as you fashionably step forward, the partitions rapidly self-form into a sort of white room – four walls with no entrances or exits. Now brought together, this audience is not privileged enough to peek inside this magical showpiece although their curiosity is quite piqued more than ever.

You dramatically gesture towards the improvised box. The crowd is riveted and gazes on. The music goes swiftly silent. You flamboyantly clap your hands and the four walls (always your obedient servants because of the four-wall contract you have reached with them and the splendid craft services they enjoy) fall away to the ground. There – in full glory – stands a magnificent and massive elephant; having appeared – as did the panels – out of nowhere and under the most impossible of conditions. (Now you must be asking, why an elephant? If you can make walls fly and move about and summon very large mammals from thin air, why not conjure up something truly incredible like a dinosaur or King-Kong or a whole pack of laughing hyenas? Why a single elephant? Well, you see, it is a long-standing tradition with magical folk to make a rather large elephant appear on a rather empty stage before a rather overjoyed audience. The audience and the elephant rather expect it. So, you would rather placate them. It’s really rather that simple.)

You share a mischievous glance with your pachyderm pal; a brief look that assures you the majestic creature is ready. The best is yet to come, as they say. (No, I don’t know who they are, it’s just a saying that they say. Let’s just agree that it’s another long-standing tradition among magical folk to leave the best for last. Now, stop interrupting.) And, with a “BBBBBRRRRRRRR,” the elephant ear-splittingly trumpets its way to standing on its two hind legs.

“BBBBBRRRRRRRR,” the elephant blasts, again. “Bravo,” the audience clamors as they rise to their feet in one flurry of fascination and flattery. “How is this done?” they will ask you. “Was it a trick of the lights?” “Was it a figment of their imaginations?” “Is it real – no, I mean real – magic not the kind of pick-a-card magic you can buy in a joke store?” And you know you cannot tell anyone anything – in any way, or at all – about how this magical treat was accomplished because (and you should know this by now) it is a long-standing tradition of magical folk not to tell how their glamours are created.

And as the elephant powerfully trumpets and as the crowd robustly shows their appreciation, you silently bow. And even as the curtain whooshes down it, too, seems to whisper its wonder at what has just occurred.

 

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . Do you want a change for the better in your life? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

One more thing (yet, again) . . . I’d love to know what you think of this continued, little exercise and whether you would like to see Chapter 3. You can join in the conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Lighting Fires in the Ordinary Land of Weariness (Chapter 1)

(A quick note: what you are about to read is a portion of a larger project. I don’t quite know where this is going, yet. I normally don’t post “unfinished” musings. But, I’ve been writing to you for quite some time about getting outside your comfort zone and thinking outside your comfortable box so it’s only fair that I do the same thing. Here’s to being uncomfortable and thus getting more out of Life!)

LIGHTING FIRES IN THE ORDINARY LAND OF WEARINESS
A Collection of Over-Adventures
For Those Who Fancy Something More In Their Lives

by
Scott Grossberg

CHAPTER 1

PIÈCE DE RÉSISTANCE

in which you learn that a room without a ceiling is electrifying, light can be heavy,
and it is possible to imagine what is unimaginable

 Because we have to start somewhere and this is as good a place as any, you find yourself, all alone, in a stark, square, snowy-white space. Scanning your surroundings, it quickly and skillfully registers—there are no doors. No coming in. No going out. Not no how, not no way (to borrow freely and fearlessly from a rather fancy-schmancy, famous movie you might have followed when you were younger). Don’t worry: How you got to where you are is a puzzle to be puzzled out at the end of this fantasy.

As you stand there a little baffled at your surroundings, as quick as lightning—and that, my dear friend, will be most important in a moment—you see that each of the four sealed walls and the barren floor are perfectly and entirely indistinguishable from each other—except, of course, that you are standing on the floor (if you were standing on one of the walls that would be certainly more magical but a different tale altogether, now wouldn’t it?). They all seem to glow with some inner dazzle that makes their whiteness even more magnificent and mystical. And that gleam happily casts back and up on you so that you, too, seem to glimmer with some privileged sparkle.

As star-light, star-bright (nope—no wishes, yet—that’s for later) as the walls and floor might be, you notice that the ceiling is just as profoundly and somberly dark (if you’re still fearful of the dark like you were as a child, you might as well stop reading now; everybody knows that it always gets darkest before things start to dawn on you, and I wouldn’t want to be accused of burdening you with a harrowing adventure. Or would I? Never mind . . . keep reading, it all turns out okay in the end. These kinds of tales always do.) Oh wait—that’s not a ceiling; the top of your extraordinarily fantastic room has, in the most brash manner, been left willfully open. The coal-blackness you are looking at is the inky night sky looking back at you! And while both of you duly regard each other with fitting awe and ill-fitting interest, you start to notice the fascinating flashes of intense light that intensely bring to light the flashy presence of tempestuous clouds. Some of the lights are merely teasing twinkles, others are so lively and furiously bright they render you so sightless that your room seems to become invisible. And now you catch on that what you are seeing is one of those beyond-your-wildest-dreams lightning storms you’ve always wanted to be part of. (You figure all this out on your own, by the way, because each lightning flash – I think the secret has been leaked and we can securely call it that now – is meticulously stalked by a roll of thunder. It’s unmistakable; the clap, crack and peal sounds like the clouds, themselves, are colliding with each other.)

Before long you latch onto the momentous idea—fleeting as the concept might be to those sad souls who have forgotten how to dream or who don’t read silver-tongued tales—that the time that passes from the sights to the sounds is a careful clue; an ageless hint that has cautiously been crafted so you know in a cinch which flash of brilliance is close enough to capture, and which is a godforsaken gap away. (After all, there is no need to go to all the bother to rub elbows in the remote regions of the heavens with a bad-tempered lightning bolt that likely won’t like you, in any absurd event, and will, most likely, only net you a mouthful of storm clouds.) And so you decide to demonstrate your cleverness and latch on to one of the bolts that is on the verge of striking you, anyway.

You resolve that with an abducted bolt of animated light in an allegorical pocket, you could literally conquer the world. As nimble and quick as you can put a match to your plan, you lift yourself up onto your tiptoes and reach your hands high up into the open sky in preparation to snatch the next thunderbolt that passes close enough to be imprisoned. Then it happens—almost in slow motion—first it is a pinprick that barely registers in the back of your mind, then it grows to a burning line of white and, before it can finish its streak across the sky and wink out with a final loud clap, you make a do-or-die jump and seize the splay of lightning with both hands. Even as you touch the light and the light touches you, it is as if the two of you welcome each other with open arms; as though this fusing of your intent and the light’s energy was always meant to be.

As the lightning becomes a part of you, you notice that the sky is, alas, no more and there is now a ceiling in your room. Everything glows around you. Alive. Vibrant. The whole world feels bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. And it is then—and only then—that you decide to point a finger at one of the walls; an indication of your intent and a way to signal what you desire. Even as you gesture – nearly as quick as lightning, so to speak – a door appears. Just. For. You. It’s how you got here in the first place you suddenly realize. It’s how you can get out, if you want to.

What do you do next? And, does it really matter in any way or at all? You see, you can have anything you want with a little lightning in your pocket.

 

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . Do you want MORE in your life? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

One more thing (again) . . . I’d love to know what you think of this continued, little exercise and whether you would like to see Chapter 2. You can join in the conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Lighting Fires in the Ordinary Land of Weariness (Chapter 0)

August 2, 2015 3 comments

(A quick note: what you are about to read is a portion of a larger project. I don’t quite know where this is going, yet. I normally don’t post “unfinished” musings. But, I’ve been writing to you for quite some time about getting outside your comfort zone and thinking outside your comfortable box so it’s only fair that I do the same thing. Here’s to being uncomfortable and thus getting more out of Life!)

LIGHTING FIRES IN THE ORDINARY LAND OF WEARINESS
A Collection of Over-Adventures
For Those Who Fancy Something More In Their Lives

by
Scott Grossberg

CHAPTER 0
FOUNTAINHEAD
in which you learn that a saunter is better than stagnation,
breakers actually fix things, and it is possible to move what is stuck

You stand nearly motionless in the middle of a commonplace street. Common people are walking and talking and frequently laughing all around you. Then it starts. “Take a step,” you hear. “Hop. Skip. Jump.” It is both relentless and unsettling, that voice.

“Do something,” it bids from what seems like every direction.

It is almost a whisper.

“Do anything. Just move!”

Yes, it is almost a whisper.

Of course, as Luck would have it—and she always has her way, doesn’t she?—it is your own voice that faintly pesters you to set things in motion. It is your own heart that beats heavy with the thrill of something new and the terror of . . . something new. It is your own aroused skin that prickles to the point that it almost pains from the all-too-real alchemy of mischief and make-believe, chances and choices, aspirations and attachments.

You close your eyes now with a deep, dependable breath. That’s right. It’s time to be dour and down-to-earth, again. Still, you think, if you’re going to be down-to-earth, you might as well walk upon it. So, you open your eyes suddenly even as you find yourself putting one wary foot forward. Then another. Then another. What was an uncommon uncertainty deep down in your gut now turns to a celebrated compulsion deep down in your soul; as if you have been charmed, and the irresistible fascination to see what is just around the next blind corner, or inside the not-quite-so-closed box, or hidden within the pages of a found—or was this left for you—letter has possessed you. And being under such a heady spell, you really have no choice but to now turn the handle and push open the door that has just appeared in front of you. Is this a trick? Or, has the door been there all along, simply waiting for you to notice it? Either way, you cross through the doorway.

On the other side of the door, you stand—feeling a little more liberated than ever before—on a high white cliff overlooking the ocean. It’s as if you can see to that place they call Forever. You breathe in deeply and there it is: that unforgettable and unmistakable whiff of salty water.

What’s this? You notice you are not wearing any shoes. Being clearly distracted before, you must have innocently left them behind. Your mother-naked feet dig with a familiar thrust into the sandy ledge that is dotted green with wild grass. (Now don’t ask why there is sand on the top of the cliff—the sand cliff was created, of course, when some of the waves dissolved into fits of laughter and the outburst then carried the sand from the beach to the bluff. Where was I? Oh, yes.) While you tunnel with your toes, your undefended skin, no longer tingling, is instead delightfully moist from the waves’ familiar leftovers.

And what’s this? You begin to hear the steady pulse—the measured throbbing—of the legion of waves that lives far below you. The Swell Swells (as they’re known by locals) break on the shore in such a calculated and grand way that even they have forgotten that they have been lured there. Yes, the Swells have been as captured in their measured flows as you have been willingly taken prisoner by the promise of a treasure to be won.

You look back towards the door you suspiciously walked through moments before . . . wondering, for a moment, if you should go back from whence you came. But the door you entered is gone. You cannot go back even if you want to. Once you took that deliberate step forward, your peewee world changed forever. And, you would not have it any other way because change – whether in your pocket or in the world at large—is what keeps us all in the land of the living and makes life all the more interesting.

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . Do you want MORE in your life? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

One more thing (again) . . . I’d love to know what you think of this little exercise and whether you would like to see the next chapter. You can join in the conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™| Choosing Peace of Mind So You Can Take Life in Stride

July 26, 2015 2 comments

Stride forward with a firm, steady step knowing with a deep,
certain inner knowing that you will reach every goal you set yourselves,
that you will achieve every aim.
– Eileen Caddy

By now you know that I’m a proponent of you taking things in stride. Of you taking an “of course” attitude to what comes your way.

But . . . I have a confession.

When it comes to this particular Life Lesson, I’m the poster child for Richard Bach’s saying: “We teach best what we most need to learn.”

You see, my first response to stress, irritation, attack, and the craziness of life is: I get angry. I immediately shift into warrior mode. I want to demolish what stands in my way.

That type of response does not always (nor usually) serve me well. My guess is that it does not serve you well, either.

So let’s have a magical healing session and remind ourselves, together, how to take life in stride.

Let’s begin with a mutual understanding of the phrase “take things in stride.” The Free Dictionary describes it as: “to accept advances or setbacks as the normal course of events” and “accept something as a matter of course, not allow something to interrupt or disturb one’s routine” and even “to calmly deal with something unpleasant and not let it have a bad effect on you.”

Wiktionary provides the following definition: “To cope with something unfortunate without much effort; to accept or manage difficulties well.”

Okay. I get it. When something “bad” happens, we are informed to be calm, cope, and concede.

Hmmmm.

That’s not much help.

Simply telling a Magician to “stay calm,” “just cope” and “make a concession” aren’t too practical. So, perhaps the following will give us a little more guidance.

Rather than dealing with “meanings,” let’s start where every good creator begins —with “outcomes.”

The idea behind taking things “in stride” is to bring you or help you maintain peace of mind; a state of tranquility. Or as the Frank Constanza character was instructed to say (or perhaps yell) on Seinfeld: “Serenity Now!”

I don’t have to go over the various studies and findings in detail. I think we all understand that the absence or control of stress is a healthier alternative for you. Because we want to be healthier, it should be a no-brainer that taking life “in stride” is something we want to make happen. It’s a habit we want to put into play as quickly and easily as possible.

But is it possible? Or are we relegated to grand visions of what a life without stress could be like?

Well, the Dalai Lama said, ““The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.”

Here are 5 simple techniques to start developing your positive emotions RIGHT NOW:

1.  Stop caring what other people think. I’m willing to bet that this very first step, upon you reading it, caused a stress reaction in you that almost made you want to stop reading further. That should be proof enough that overly caring about other people’s opinions of you is killing you.

2.  Start living in the Now and not so much in Wonderland. It’s one thing to imagine a desired future and then take action steps to make that future a reality and quite another to ruminate over future troubles. If you’re one of those who seems rooted in a worrisome future, catch yourself and direct your attention to the Now. Be mindful of what’s going on around you.

3.  Start realizing that there’s no real reward to be won from competing with others. You can frame it anyway you’d like, the truth is that no one else is competing with you. Everyone else is so self-consumed that they’re all just doing what they can to survive day-to-day. It just looks like competition with you. If you find yourself entangled with someone else, take a mental step back and find the reward you’re really looking for by competing further. I think you’ll find there are some much deeper insecurities going on that you didn’t appreciate until now.

4.  Stop hanging around with people who don’t make you smile. You know that you’re making concessions for many of the people you call friends and colleagues. You make exceptions and exemptions for your dreams to conform to their usually negative and disempowering thoughts and emotions. Find those who lift you up. Find those who brighten your day. Find those who support you, cheer you on, and propel you forward. Then cherish them.

5.  Stop believing that what you’re stressing over involves something important. Most of us are majorly stressing over and reacting to things that are simply not major life stressors. Here are some major life stressors: death or impending death of a loved one, divorce or relationship problems, moving, major illness or pain, and loss of a job. Is what you are being afflicted by caused by one of these? Probably not. It’s time to put what you hold as important into focus.

One last thing . . . I’m not suggesting for a moment that you stop caring. I’m urging to you start choosing, instead, what you care about. We don’t do that enough!

 

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . would you like to learn more about how to deal with the challenges that come your way? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

 

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Are You Letting Your Magical Studies Destroy Your Magical Life?

Twenty years from now you will be more
disappointed by the things that you didn’t do
than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines,
sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore, Dream, Discover.
– Mark Twain

Working with people who have chosen to live a magical life has been very interesting and intriguing. You see, there’s one big factor that seems to stop people—dead in their tracks—from really living the life of their dreams. They think they have to “be” different than who they are right now. They believe they have to “act” differently.

So they take up rigorously studying very magical things of one amazing sort or another. And in the course of such intense studying, they also start waiting for wondrous and enchanting things to happen to them. That’s not living a magical life. That’s living a life of hunches and intuition and out-of-the-blue surprises. This latter lifestyle isn’t bad (provided you’re getting good hunches and reliable intuitive messages and profitable surprises). But, it isn’t the lifestyle of consistent success.

Here’s the important thing I’ve learned. You don’t have to “be different” to start living the dream. You just have to “be yourself.”

What you do have to do is to “do” differently. Most people don’t have abundance because they don’t “do” things that will bring them abundance. They think there’s some special and esoteric way of being. Or some just-always-out-of-reach way of looking.

I assure you . . . there’s something much more certain you can do to bring you what you want in life . . .

Creating a pattern of “magical doing.”

You can call it a habit of success.

You can call it a pattern of triumph.

You can call it just about anything you’d like.

It still boils down to the same thing—Doing Magic.

I find that many times people who choose to live a magical life set unreachable standards for themselves. Today, it’s time to relax a little. In fact, here are a few things to consider about your own life. If you find that any of this is happening to you, it’s time to stop studying for awhile, get off your ass, and START DOING!

1. You don’t choose what you want to create each morning when you awake. There are only two things you can do each morning. One is to decide what you want your day to be like. The other is to let the day decide what you are going to be like. Guess which one powerful Magicians choose?

2.  You are daydreaming—a lot—about what a life of Magic might be like. I’m all in favor of envisioning your dream life. But if you’re spending your time imagining a life different than the one you’re actually living, it’s time to start putting together an action plan to change things. Stop wishing. Start having.

3.  You’re not seeing magical reactions of any sort from others. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again—Magic needs to be shared. This isn’t some conjecture on your part or delusional performance. We’ve all seen people who believe they’re magical or have some superpower and, let’s be blunt, their reality is not shared by one other person who sees them. If you’re not getting the reactions and responses you desire, then it’s time to switch things up. The problem isn’t your audience. The challenge is that you’re not communicating clearly or powerfully enough.

4.  You think you always have to have big results. Magic is just as much about the little details and small steps as it is about the flashy consequences and powerful outcomes. If you are constantly wishing that things were more dramatic, that’s probably a good indication that you need to slow down a little, reassess what’s not currently working for you, and start DOING small actions that are consistent with the big outcome you desire.

5.  You’re winging it through most of your day (and night). Much like #1, if you’re ad-libbing your way through life, it’s time to reevaluate what’s working for you in a positive manner and what’s not. That’s not to say that being a good improvisational artist isn’t part of the craft of being a Magician. However, appearing as if you’re ad-libbing (to others) and really ad-libbing (to yourself) are too different things. Going through life unprepared and in a makeshift fashion isn’t effective or efficient. Many Magicians reach a point in their journey where they feel like frauds—like they’ve risen to their own level of inability. That soon passes. If you’ve been experiencing this feeling for too long, it’s time to change what you’re doing.

6. You don’t have and use a magical system. I want you to wield Magic that brings reproducible, repeatable, and reliable results. That happens most powerfully when you discover potent and straightforward methods and techniques that can be simply applied over and over again. I wrote my book with this entire premise in mind. Consistently successful Magicians are very precise in framing what they want to manifest and meticulous in the techniques they use to get there.

When you stop studying so much and start living more, you will find out how much Magic is just waiting for you!

The-Most-Magical-Secret-Cover-3dOne More Thing . . . would you like to learn more about choosing to life the life of a Magician? If so, then consider reading The Most Magical Secret – 4 Weeks to an Ecstatic Life. You can order my new book right now through Amazon  >>> http://www.amazon.com/dp/0692420010

 

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at http://thinkingmagically.com or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com
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