Thinking Magically™ | The Art of Uncomplicated Magic

“As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler;
solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness.”

– Henry David Thoreau

In getting people to recognize and use their personal magic, I am often amazed at how complicated they want to make things.  Even those who are otherwise incredibly successful seem to want to add layer upon layer of elaborate intricacies. It’s as if more detail equates with more magic. It’s also as if adding more detail gives them an excuse not to execute on their “well laid” plans.

I suggest to you that the most effective magic usually comes from uncomplicated magic.

Now, don’t think for a minute that simple magic means you only get simple results. Using simple magic only means getting into an uncluttered mindset. Most of us move through the day with a confusion about what we want, when we want it, and how we want it to happen.

We remain disturbed when things and people don’t go “our way.” Yet, if we take the time to actually deconstruct what is happening in our lives at any given time, we come discover that we didn’t have a clear and concise vision in the first place. We don’t have an “our way” that can be thwarted.

As a magician, you are truly unlimited in choosing what transformations you want to happen in your world. Still, because magicians are so creative and imaginative, you will be tempted to choose nothing because you can choose everything. You can lead yourself to believe that, by choosing one thing, you eliminate another opportunity or creation or outcome. You stall. This vicious cycle of uncertainty and hesitation ends up costing you valuable time and you actually lose out on everything.

That’s no way for a magician to act.

I challenge you to start centering your magical intention and attention on one or two uncomplicated goals or outcomes. Albert Einstein actually described the perfect test to determine whether you’re dealing with uncomplicated magic or not: “If you can’t explain it to a six year old, you don’t understand it yourself.

Here are some themes to explore to help you develop uncomplicated magic:

1. What’s most important to you? (Hint: Your first answer will likely not be the truth. So, when you get your quick answer, then ask: “What’s important about that?”) By finally coming face-to-face with what you truly value in life, you get very clear about what you need to create.

2.  What can you get rid of that’s not important to you? (Hint: Your first answer will likely be the truth. So, when you get your quick answer to this second question, go with it.) Michelangelo said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” So it will be with you. You will see the magic in yourself and reduce the complexities in your life until you set the magic free. In getting rid of what’s no longer important to you (or perhaps never was), you might consider using the mantra: “Let this bless someone else.

3.  Dismiss what everyone else wants and understand what you want. Part of the complications we allow into our lives come from others. Can you get to the point where you simply don’t care (for a short while) what anyone else wants? Allow yourself to actually live in the Now — in the moment — where no one needs anything from you and you don’t have any obligations to attend to. Learn to devote all your magical intention and attention on you.

4.  Do small deeds to receive mighty results. Some of the people I work with believe they have to do epic deeds every single day. That belief eventually leads them to days when they are so overwhelmed with the thought of having to accomplish something imposing or impressive or impossible that they get stuck in place and do nothing. Or, they set out such a long list of epic deeds that they can’t bring everything they’ve got to any one thing. I love that you have larger-than-life goals. Sometimes, though, we let those same big dreams keep us from actually accomplishing them. You’re not living the life of a magician by merely dreaming big. Set your magic free by doing small magical deeds each and every day. They’ll all add up in the end and conspire to get you what you want.

 5. Let there be a pause between your magical moments. You need to give yourself time to breathe and decompress. You need to give yourself a buffer in case one deed takes longer than planned. And you need to stop being busy in order to be successful. Many people I see keep flitting from one task to another, thinking they’re being effective and efficient. They are neither. Start to experience your personal magic like you experience music. Paolo Coehlo wrote: “ . . . music only exists because the pauses exist . . .” Take the time to create space in your life and you will be rewarded with even more focus, even more energy, and even greater magical results.

Magicians can be a very serious bunch. We want what we want, when we want it, and how we want it. We believe our magical work is all-important and all the rest is trivial. Some days, life is all about slowing down and taking the time to breathe and enjoy what you have. It is in that respite that you discover the fire and the passion and the momentum to continue on.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Apply the Law of the Vital Few to Your Magic

April 19, 2015 1 comment

“80% of success is showing up.”
– Woody Allen

Vilfredo Pareto was a Professor of Political Economy at Lausanne, Switzerland and lived from 1848 to 1923. One of his observations was the fact that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by only 20% of the population or, to put it another way, the majority of wealth in Italy was owned and controlled by the effective few. This 80:20 rule has come to be known as the Pareto Principle (or the Law of the Vital Few, as I like to use it) and was originally popularized by Joseph Moses Juran (1904 – 2008) when Juran expanded the Pareto Principle to include observations such as 80% of a problem is caused by 20% of the causes.

Many, many public speakers from all industries and walks of life now tout Juran’s breakthroughs. Naturally, it has become very fashionable to discuss this in the context of business management.

I thought it would be interesting to take what is so fondly shown off in ordinary ways and apply it to a magical way of life.

Let me start you off by admitting that I have not found a Pareto quotation that easily defines the 80:20 rule. Rather, there are simply a plethora of different versions and renditions; clarifications such as:

80% of your perceived value will come from 20% of your work.

80% of what you’re heard to say will come from 20% of what you actually say.

80% of your problems come from only 20% of your employees.

80% of your solutions come from 20% of your employees.

80% of your products are used by 20% of your customers.

80% of your income is paid by 20% of your clients.

80% of your income derives from 20% of your own efforts.

And I could go on and on. What they’re all saying is simply: The vast majority of your outcomes evolve from a smaller percentage of your actions than you might at first imagine.

What does all this mean for you as you follow a magical way of life?

Well, as magicians, we’re concerned with both the process of doing magic and the results of that magic. The Pareto Principle affords you an easy way to determine precisely how to you should be focusing both your deeds and your decisions.

Take a moment and contemplate the following:

80% of your abundance will come from 20% of your desired outcomes. What are the goals that will bring you the most abundance?

80% of your outcomes will occur because of the support of 20% of your friends. Who are the friends who will help you acquire or achieve what you want?

80% of your results will come from 20% of your effort. Which of your deeds are most likely to bring you your desired effects?

80% of your personal power arises from 20% of your intentions. Which of your purposes are most likely to increase your ability to control outcomes?

This is just a sampling of what you can do with the Pareto Principle as applied to magic. Once you explore the questions I’ve given you, start expanding the inquiry to determine how you can be more effective and efficient with your attention and intention.

When I ask you to focus on the goals that will bring you the most abundance, you necessarily have to prioritize what’s important and what isn’t.

When I ask you to focus on those friends who bring you the most help in achieving your goals, you must rank your friends and then determine whether (using the Pareto Principle) you’re actually spending (wasting) 80% of your time with the least helpful of your network of friends.

When I ask you to realize that most of your power comes from your highest ranking intentions, you start to gain clarity on what you should be concentrating on.

Let me put this another way using the context of the title Law of the Vital Few (and you’ll see why I like this name better because it’s much more dramatic). Simply put, small things are vital, many things are superficial.

All I’m asking you to do is to think about the Law of the Vital Few.

Then start considering how you spend your time, your efforts, your energy, and your heartbeats. Now, start focusing on the 20% of your life and intentions and desires that really matter rather than continuing to do what a lot of us do — spending 80% of our time and efforts and energy and heartbeats jumping from one shiny object to another without any real, consistent focus or results.

Put another way, only 20% of your personal power is really needed to bring you 80% of what you want. It’s time to start prioritizing, don’t you think?

Magic is all about transforming realities. The Law of the Vital Few helps you create those transformations in a wise manner.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | The Decision to be a Magician

“It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about.
What’s hard, she said, is figuring out what you’re
willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.”

– Shauna Niequist (Bittersweet: Thoughts on Change, Grace, and Learning the Hard Way)

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Begin with “why?”
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If you want to be a magician, the first decision you need to make is . . . to be a magician. And before you make that choice, you should ask yourself: “Why do I want to be a magician?

I’ve seen may fair share of people who want to yield magic — or at least appear like their magical — for the sake of controlling others, feeling more important, and intimidating and gaining some advantage over those less knowledgeable. You’ve seen them. They’re the perpetual show-offs. The ones with swelled heads. The incessant talkers. The people who disunite and divide and separate people from their desires and their money. And they’re the ones who will tell you that their dreams are bigger and brighter than anyone else’s.

I’ve also experienced the exceptional people. Those who want to discover and employ their magic in powerful, positive, and productive ways. Those who create results that move the world forward and thus stir all of us to act better, be better, and feel better.

You can easily tell the difference between the two types. The former leave you exhausted and distressed and plundered. The latter leave you wanting more and you are brimming with possibility every time you think of them.

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Then make the magical choice
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If you want to be a systematically successful magician, you need to make the decision to be consistently extraordinary — not in the sense of imposing yourself on others but in the sense of transforming the world around you.

The decision to be a magician carries with it an obligation. You see, once you start to use magic, you bind yourself to those who are part of or who witness your magic. Antoine de Saint-Exupery put it another way: “You are responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose.”

Magicians who are worthy of their magic are also responsible for the worth of that magic. They are accountable for both the experience and the outcome of their magic.

So . . . How do you decide to be a worthy magician?

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7 Steps to a magical life
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STEP 1. Love the magic. Magicians love the process of magic and the activity of doing the conjuring; not just the effects that are achieved. Magic is as much the impact of a magician’s passion as it is of their skill.

STEP 2. Start by doing something magical. Deciding to be a magician can start with simply looking around you and beginning to see the charm and excitement and ripeness with possibility that already surrounds you. Then, you need only start to preach that magic to yourself. It’s so easy to see the negativity in the world. Trust me that it’s just as easy to see the opportunities. And it’s also as easy to just start acting like a magician.

STEP 3. Learn from other magicians. Find those role models who are already living and exemplifying and creating the magic that you want to embody and pattern yourself after them.

STEP 4. Codify your magic. Your success as a magician will be directly proportional to how well you systematize your success. Magic must become a pattern and practice for you. Only in that way do you do you develop the skill and knowledge necessary.

STEP 5. Design your magic. You can either let your conditions define you or you can define your conditions. Consistently successful magicians are able to take what they have and use it to their advantage or they figure out what else they might need and go and get it. The words, “Oh, well,” have no place in a magician’s life plan.

STEP 6. Neither a finger-pointer nor a crybaby be. Stop with the excuses. Stop with the blaming others. Nobody wants to know why you couldn’t pull off your magical plans. Be accountable. Be reliable. And stop complaining. If something goes wrong, fix whatever went awry so it doesn’t happen, again.

STEP 7. Be a rebel, a nonconformist, and stay restless. Always challenge what your eyes and ears are showing and telling you. For a magician, the world is pliable — not something to be mechanistically accepted. For a magician, the ordinary is just a starting point from which to levitate.

For the most part, being a magician depends on just making the decision to be a magician. Becoming a master magician may take you a while. Rest assured that moving in that direction will bring you a life of charm and desire and excitement and wonder.

Because that’s what magicians do — they do magic.

But, be warned: once you choose a life of magic there’s no going back because living an ordinary life will simply disappear.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Always Presume Magic is Afoot

Being in a relationship doesn’t entitle you to anything.
You don’t get what you expect, you get what you create.
– Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

The more adept you become as a magician, the more you realize that the act of creating is the cornerstone of everything. As a designer, builder, and mastermind of reality, you will find yourself moving from the question, “What outcome do I want today?” to the deeper and more satisfying inquiry, “What do I want to create today?

The former presumes you’re entitled to something.

The latter presumes you have the power to make that something into a reality.

When you first start out on the path of a magician, you separate out and sort your effects toolbox into categories of observable outcomes: something disappears, something reappears, something floats, something changes, etc.

As you evolve, however, you inevitably start wondering about the feelings, the emotions, and the experiences you’re creating on the way to each outcome. You discover that the outcomes you want are actually driven and ultimately appreciated by how you and others live and love through the artistic process.

No outcome is worth your magical intention and attention if you can’t enjoy the processes, meet new parts of yourself, or see things in a fresh way.

Magic is about surprise. It is the perfect teacher because, when we see magic happen, we are instantly reminded that we can still be amazed and entertained. The status quo is shaken, the ordinary is jolted awake, and the common is forgotten.

We are inspired to be alive.

It’s no wonder, then, that magic is essential to being. It prompts us to search for a new meaning to what is possible and refine what is not possible. In other words, magic, among other things, gives us hope. And to have hope means we remain optimistic.
There are times when you work your magic — when you create — that you start to feel frustrated and defeated and even disappointed. You might start to think that your magic has stopped working because you’re not experiencing the results you expected.

When these feelings of irritation and discomfort arise, that’s the perfect time to just TAKE FOR GRANTED THAT THE MAGIC IS HAPPENING. Even when you can’t see it for yourself.

If it helps, think of using your magic as you would seeing with your own eyes. If you look in a mirror and glance back and forth from eye-to-eye, you can never see your own eyes move no matter how hard you try. That does not mean your eyes aren’t moving. Someone watching you from the outside, of course, can clearly see you glancing from side-to-side.

There will be times when you just won’t see or feel your magic happening. You must never give up and always presume that the magic is working. You must continue to behave as the master magician that you are.

Surprise is essential to magic.

Even magicians need to be flabbergasted now and then. It keeps things fresh. Just like our eyes continually move and jump and joggle about so that we can see, so to our magic continually will refuse to stand still so that it does not become commonplace. Your eyes continually move about in order to provide fresh images (new stimuli and surprises) to your retina. If your eyes didn’t do this, it’s thought that the things you see would simply fade away. So, too, your magic will never permit itself to become average nor mundane nor cut-and-dry. Your magic will always surprise you — even if that means letting you think, for a short bit, that it’s gone away.

Always presume the magic is there.

It’s essential to your success.

Lang Leav, in her book, Love & Misadventure, wrote:

“It’s so dark right now, I can’t see any light around me.
That’s because the light is coming from you. You can’t see it but everyone else can.”

When you keep reminding yourself that the magic is coming from you, you’ll be patient when you think that it’s gone. Trust me — everyone else can see it.

Take a moment, right now, and find an object that memorializes and represents your magic. How can you use this physical object to constantly remind yourself of your magical powers, purpose, and persona? How can you use this relic to infuse your daily life with even more surprise and wonder and joy?

The truth of the matter is: When you dare to presume that your magic is present, it is always there for you.

Remember to dare.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Success as a Hobby – The Little Mistake That’s Costing You Big-Time

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
Then quit.
No use being a damn fool about it.”
– W.C. Fields

Let’s face it. Most of us get our results by stumbling into them. We acquire our outcomes largely by chance. And we make our decisions normally based on our hunches. Then we wonder why we aren’t more productive, prosperous, or thriving.

To put it simply, I find that many people just don’t know any better and so they treat success like a hobby. A spare-time activity. A sideline.

Like any other hobby, we seek success because of the pleasure we believe it will bring us or the pain it will help us avoid. But . . . we actually pursue prosperity in a leisurely or unbelieving manner. We believe that, if we just periodically think about it and do our occasional wishing for it long enough, good fortune will eventually find us (if not seek us out), fall in our ready-and-willing laps, and then we will nod with a knowing smile because “we’ve had it coming all along.

But, most of us, in the end, are just success hobbyists and abundance dabblers. We are prosperity amateurs who look admiringly at other people’s wealth rather than looking at how to make our own desired outcomes a reality.

We hoodwink ourselves by coming up with elaborate reasons why we must postpone getting what we really want. We think we have all the time in the world, when we really know that we’re all running out of time and that “when the time is right, it will happen” is nothing but a smoke-and-mirrors approach to abundance.

To put it another way — If you don’t take the time to learn how you own success works, then you will only have the time to know how someone else’s success works.

So, what’s the difference between an amateur at achievement and a professional winner? The professional gets paid.

With money.

With love.

With time.

With something.

There is a constant giving and a taking. Priorities are set. And abundance and prosperity are front burner items at all times. Professional winners are constantly doing what is needed to keep the flames that burn their dreams into reality fanned, fiery, and intense.

If you are an amateur, you are mostly doing a little and waiting a lot. Professional winners do a lot and demand a lot. Amateurs at success play around with and daydream about the concepts of luxury and plenty and bounty. Professionals will accept nothing less than a real-world experience of those things.

One of my personal abundance principles is simple: Success always, always, always happens. Do you?

This means that, no matter what you do or do not do, there’s going to be a consequence for, a result to, and an outcome of whatever it is that you’re doing or not doing. You can’t stop such a phenomenon. There is always a by-product of “you.” The challenge is that most of us don’t take the time to define what we want, refine how we’re going to ensure that we get it, and combine our dreams with our abilities to form imperative and necessary deeds.

Today, I want you to do three things — only three straightforward things.

First, I want you to define the One Outcome that, if you had it, would change your life forever in a positive way. I want you to write it out in as much detail as you can. Use flowery words. Use emotion. Use visual language. As they say in the movie business — show, don’t tell.

Second, I want you to refine your success habits to align with your One Outcome.  Most of us have skills, routines, practices, and ways of doing stuff that we know guarantee us success at particular tasks.r Most of us, however, have never taken the time to really map out and connect those rituals of success with the real results we want. We just keep plodding along with our day-to-day lives sometimes succeeding and sometimes failing. I want you to change that inconsistent results pattern, with a new one.

Finally, I want you to combine your One Outcome with your success habits. Antoine de Saint-Exupery once wrote: “True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.” I’ll go a step further: True success and abundance come from the enjoyment of creating, deeds done, and the suspicion that you have a choice in the matter.

Stop treating your attainments in life as hobbies. I want you to play. I don’t want you to be the plaything of others. Take hold of your dreams, your desires, and your decisions.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Finally Making Yourself Great

“This is a man in need. His fear is naked and obvious,
but he’s lost . . . somewhere in his darkness.

His eyes wide and bleak and tortured. I can soothe him.
Join him briefly in the darkness and bring him into the light.”
– E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey

There’s something truly unique about consistently successful magicians.

Yes, they have a need to entertain.

And they certainly have a need to get results.

And their need to impact the world around them is obvious.

They are really incomparable, however, in their ability to love themselves enough to play in the darkness, if needed, and bring themselves back into the light.

But I don’t love myself,” you say. “It’s all about pleasing other people.” Or “I just wasn’t raised that way.” Or “I’m not selfish.”

When you say things back to me like that, I get a sense that what you’re really saying is that you simply don’t want to think about loving yourself because it has too many messy details for you to deal with. After all — who the hell are you to deserve so much of your own love?

Well, let me put it to you another way. You won’t routinely create and manifest your desires with certainty and faith and power unless you have a little self-love thrown into the mix. That’s right — a little pride in what you’re doing is needed. A small conceit. Even a slight vanity.

In other words, if you don’t care about yourself and your desires, then why should anyone else?

One of the best ways for you to recognize, acknowledge, and develop a HEALTHY SELF-LOVE of yourself is to write a self-love letter to yourself. I don’t mean the type of cavalier and obvious letter we wrote when we were kids as part of a school project. I’m talking about a real romantic — perhaps even erotic — letter to yourself explaining why you are such a fantastic addition to the Universe.

Don’t worry — this only takes 15 minutes! And if you don’t have 15 minutes to devote to changing the way you think about yourself, you’ve got bigger challenges to address. So . . . quit the excuses and the embarrassment and the self-censorship that is running rampant through your head right now, grab a piece of paper and a pen, and let’s get to it!

Here are some ground rules to help you —

1.  You are the hero or heroine of the self-love letter. Not anyone else. Not anything else. You are the champion of your own life. You are the defender of your own honor. You are guardian of your own beliefs. You have special powers and special wants and special needs and you are here to save the world.

2.  You aren’t perfect. No one is. Your self-love letter isn’t about an ideal or about excusing away flaws. This is about writing things down about yourself that you’ve uncovered as you continue to make your way through Life’s field of battle.

3.  Understand why you’re writing this letter — to woo and have a love affair with yourself. There’s a reason behind everything you’ve said, done, and thought. The choices you’ve made have a lot to do with the way you talk to yourself — that programming that keeps running all the time in the background of your mind. In your self-love letter, you seek to be brutally honest about all those things you find beautiful, captivating, and enchanting about yourself.

4.  When you get to the point where you say, “Maybe I shouldn’t write that down,” you’re actually on to something important. The thrust of a self-love letter is to tear down the firewall that normally keeps your passion from spreading to everything you do.

5.  You want to fall in love with yourself. In deciding on what to put in your self-love letter, there is only one formula: Does what I’m writing make me hunger to have more of that? Don’t worry . . . you’ll feel it to the depths of your spirit when you write down the really revealing and significant and seductive stuff. Just write what you’d love to read if it was sent to you by a secret admirer.

6.  Keep it real. This isn’t a self-love letter of fiction. Find those dimensions and deeds and desires of yourself that are genuinely positive and sincerely attractive.

7.  Don’t say “I love you” to yourself until the very end. You already know that you love you. That’s why you’re writing the letter. But, like every good story, you want to show and not simply tell. And like every good love affair, you don’t want the end to come before the adventure runs its course.

Now, with these 7 guidelines in mind, start writing your self-love letter. Right now. Right here. No excuses.

Fill it with admiration. Note your reliability. Outline what your desires have allowed you to accomplish. Summarize how your joys and delights have permitted you to share, interact, make love with, and find time with others. Have you saved a life? Have you changed a life? Does it matter that you’ve lived at all?

Once you’re finished with your letter, notice how you feel. Then, put your self-love letter in an envelope and place it in a nice, safe place. Periodically, revisit your self-love letter and remind yourself why you’re worth loving! And be sure to keep writing new self-love letters. It’s a ritual you’ll thank yourself for many times over.

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved. thinkingmagically.com

Thinking Magically™ | Admit It . . . You’re Lost in Space

Crying is all right in its way while it lasts.
But you have to stop sooner or later,
and then you still have to decide what to do.
— C.S. Lewis, The Silver Chair

What happens when you don’t know what to do with your life?

It’s not malaise — there’s no physical discomfort. You’re just uneasy in your own skin, in your own world, in what you believe you should be doing.

It’s not angst — there’s no anxiety about the world and your personal options. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. You have complete freedom and that’s what seems to be causing the challenges.

You don’t know how to spend all your freedom and all your options and all your opportunities in the best way possible.

Is it melancholy? Not really. There’s no “thoughtful sadness” present.

You’re not depressed.  You’re not unhappy. You haven’t even gotten to that place that the Meredith Grey character on the TV show Grey’s Anatomy calls her “dark and twisty place.”

But life just isn’t as exciting anymore. Perhaps it never was.

Perhaps, you just don’t know you’re going through this at all. Or in the first place.

This way of feeling and being and experiencing is kind of like the passage from Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland — you know the one:

Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
I don’t much care where –” said Alice.
Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
– so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.
Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

Let’s get to the bottom of all this right here and right now and cut through all the hocus-pocus. When someone tells me that they don’t know what to do with their life or that they can’t decide which path is the right one for them and so they remain stuck in place, what they’re really saying to me is: I don’t want to make the decision in the first place.”

You’re saying you don’t know because you don’t want to know.

But, I really don’t know what I want,” you say.

I understand.

Everyone goes through some level of indecision at some point in their lives. The difference is that consistently successful magicians, when faced with hesitation or uncertainty or doubt, find the underlying cause of their lack of a firm path forward. And, once fathomed out, they utterly destroy the head game that was plaguing them.

Here’s a little secret for you: Most of the time, this experience you’re having is one of lack of “doing” not a lack of “knowing.”

It was George Bernard Shaw who said: “Doing what needs to be done may not make you happy, but it will make you great.”

If you are one of the people I described, above, I suggest — just for a moment — that you stop struggling with the question: “What do I want to do with the rest of my life?” In its place, start embracing and answering and acting upon the question: “How do I want to spend my life today?”

The person who doesn’t know what they want to do with their life is really just saying, “I don’t want to make a mistake” or “I don’t want to disappoint” or “I don’t want disturb.” If that goes on too long, then you cease living the life you were born to experience and decisions will be made for you by others who do know what they want.

So, let’s change things up a bit for you. Pretend for a moment that you can’t make a mistake and you can’t disappoint anyone and you can’t disturb the status quo. Now, how would you spend your life today?

To put it another way: If you had the power to control your dreams and could dream anything at all tonight, and you could experience every pleasure, every outcome, every delight, what would you dream about while you were sleeping? Now, how can you take those dreams and turn them into deeds in the waking world today?

You may like to tell me and others that you don’t know what you want to do with your life. You may have even been saying this for so long that you’ve begun to believe it yourself. But your instincts, if you will just listen to them, know full well that’s not true. And . . . those same gut feelings will lead you unerringly to the deeds that you have to do today.

All you have to do is listen to yourself.

And you can easily prove this all. Pull out a piece of paper and something to write with. Now give yourself 10 minutes and, in that time, write down three action items that will change your world TODAY! You’re not to be concerned with year-end, or next month, or next week, or even tomorrow.

When you’ve reached the end of your 10-minute session, look at what you’ve written down. Notice if there’s a pattern. Notice if your deeds take you towards pleasure or if they run you away from pain. If your deeds are not quite right, go ahead and revise and fine-tune them.

Now, act upon those three deeds TODAY.

When you’re done with them, ask yourself: What’s different now? I’m willing to bet you’re going to discover and remember the joy of being alive and having accomplished something wonderful — getting to know yourself all over again.

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