Your problem is to bridge the gap which exists between where you are now and the goal you intend to reach.
– Earl Nightingale
There is a strain that naturally takes place within us; that faithful pushmi-pullyu type of intrinsic tension that is created when you realize where you are is not where you want to be. (A storyteller note: the pushmi-pullyu is an animal from the Doctor Doolittle series of books. It has two heads on opposite ends of its body and when it tries to move, its heads go in different directions.) You have read before that I am more than happy to keep you restless and craving more in life. The challenge occurs when the gap you are experiencing brings you to a standstill – a sort of impasse with your own dreams. That type of deadend is not to be tolerated!
By the way, you’ve heard the phrase, “Bridge the gap.” That is NOT what I am talking about. Bridging a gap is a temporary fix. Bridging a gap doesn’t fix the gap, it just crosses over it. The gap still remains. Today, let’s talk about fixing, filling, and flooding the gap so that it is banished forever.
So let’s start with an initial secret: fixing a gap in your life requires that you become insanely realistic. You must determine what or who is holding you back. You must figure out whom or what you are waiting for. You must ascertain whom or what is missing that would otherwise make you complete. Only when you get incredibly down-to-earth with this self-appraisal can you ever hope to soar into the life that is waiting for you. Anything less than such a real assessment dooms you to failure.
The next secret to fixing the gap in your life is: make a massive, written action plan. That’s right. Create a blueprint for your new road through life. Write it out! Get it out of your head and onto paper or a computer screen. You see, by putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard, you are clearing out your head to be even more creative. If you keep all those grand designs in your head, part of your thinking is bemused by just wondering if you’ll remember everything you keep trying to store up and in there. Write it out and you can work it out!
Our third secret is easily the one spot where those who are intent on neglecting their dreams flounder: get moving. Taking the steps outlined in your massive, written action plan MUST happen. That’s right – you MUST TAKE ACTION! Others have said it and it’s worth repeating: If you continue to say someday, someday will eventually turn into never. Everyday must be a new day of putting one foot in front of the other in furtherance of the roadmap you have devised for yourself. One step at a time, my friends. You don’t have to accomplish everything in one afternoon. But, you do have to end each day by revisiting what went on earlier and be able to congratulate yourself on having moved down that path a little more.
Finally, the one secret that all monumental successes know: you must create a habit of success. You want success that is reproducible at a moment’s notice and triumph that is self-sustaining. Those results only happen when you have an established custom and practice of creating victory (or at least creating a victorious mindset).
Now I must warn you, implementing these four secrets fiercely and with determination is not for everyone. In fact, you are going to find that there are habits in your past – traditions of dealing with people and events and things and places – that you will not want to abandon. If you want to live your dreams, the time will quickly come when you have to put aside those people, places, things, and events that do not serve you well. We all have those people and things – those that make you ineffective, reactive, and complacent. While it may be challenging to move beyond them and leave them to their own negative devices, that is the choice you will need to make if you want more.
With that in mind, let me leave you with this thought from Colin Powell: “Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them. If you are going to achieve excellence in big things,you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.”
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