Thinking Magically™ | Giving Yourself Permission To Be Successful And Happy

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation
you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval.
Putting a voice to your soul helps you to
let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”
– Shannon L. Alder

I spend a lot of time, as an attorney, working with businesses developing participation and permission slips for events, field trips, and other activities. These “slips” not only show a person’s voluntary intent to actively take part in “something,” they also authorize, allow, and even sanction certain activities that will take place.

So how does this have anything to do with your success and happiness?
I repeatedly explain to people that they need to participate in their own success and happiness. Too many of us live our lives through absence, hunch, and delay. We postpone what we want while we make certain that other people’s dreams prescribe what we do, how we do it, and even how we feel about it.

Why do we do that?

A lot of it has to do with how we “feel.” Right when we start to really envision how our success and happiness could be if we could have anything we want and before we actually start out on the road to that dream life, we might feel fear. We might feel frustration. We might feel anger. We might feel heartbreak. We might feel [go ahead and fill in whatever you’d like here that, in the past, you’ve felt, thought about, and experienced that wasn’t empowering or useful to you].

Then, before we start off on that road to adventure (or as we just step forward in that direction), we push off the negativity, push down the dark and twisty feelings, push the angst away, and hope that by locking it all in some imaginary closet and giving Time enough time to work its Magic, all the negative feelings or thinkings or experiences will eventually go . . . POOF!

Unfortunately, we both know that the bad feelings, thoughts, and experiences don’t fade away. Oh, we can pretend we’re not giving them much thought. We do whatever we can to be busy so we’re distracted away from those uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, and experiences. We might even become workaholics, alcoholics, drug addicts, etc. to escape it all.


There’s a better way.

Today, you get some freedom. Today, you get some relief. Today, you get to lead your own life and you get to give yourself permission to actually go through the process of participating in your own glorious adventure.

It starts with you going to my FREE RESOURCE page here >>>

Once you’re on that page, you’ll see an image that looks like this:

Permission-Slip-Mockup2Click on that image [“A Most Magical Permission Slip”]. That will take you to the full-page image you will need; an image that has three permission slips on it. Download the full-page image (in other words, save it to your computer). Then, using your favorite photo editor, illustration program, or perhaps even an image preview app, print out the image of the three permission slips onto an 8 ½ x 11 inch pice of paper. Don’t be concerned if you only have a black and white printer. Although the image was created in color, you can work through my strategy with a greyscale version of the image.

Now that you’ve downloaded, saved, and printed the image, take a look at this training video >>>

Take the time to think back on all those dreams you’ve had but never acted upon because you were too afraid or too anxious or too angry or too disempowered. Wouldn’t you like all that to be part of the past and not an indication of how you’ll act now and in the future? One of the best ways I know to change your negative response rituals (the ones that are keeping you from being happy and successful, not the ones that are built-in to keep you safe and sane) is to give yourself permission to feel all the “bad” stuff in the first place. Being happy implies that you know what it’s like not to be happy. Being successful implies that you know what it’s like not to be successful. I’ve found that, for me, I have to know both sides—not embrace one and disown the other.

I’m inviting you to start using the Most Magical Permission Slips EVERY SINGLE DAY. Dare to feel fully and be alive and in the moment. Stop stockpiling your dirty little secrets, your “that’s not very nice” thoughts, your feelings of inadequacy, and your sense of unfairness. When you create that type of backlog and reserve of negativity, all you do is invite your subconscious (and eventually your conscious self) to reflect on that fear, worry, and doubt over and over and over again.

So . . . you now have permission. To be successful. To be happy!

Here’s to your ecstatic life!

One More Thing . . . would you like to start getting more results, more happiness, and more success? Take a look at my new coaching options by going here >>>

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2016 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.

Thinking Magically™ | 3 Wellsprings of Inspiration for Magicians

“It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”
– Babe Ruth

When I decided to lose weight—a lot of weight—I determined that I wanted to use a trainer to help me get back in shape. I wanted to lose 75 pounds. I wanted to do it smartly, quickly, and in a way that could be maintained.

How do you choose someone to keep you motivated?

How do you choose someone to keep you inspired?

How do you choose someone who has the best chance of getting you to your desired goal?

I have a simple rule.

I invite you to adopt it.

It goes like this:

If you’re not doing what I want to be doing,
I’m not interested in your
comments, input, or advice.

For the purpose of losing weight and getting in shape, I chose a couple of different trainers who:

Looked like I wanted to look


worked out like I wanted to work out.

Choosing is simple.

Finding—so you can make that choice—is somewhat more complicated.

When it comes to honing my Magic and getting help from others, then, my rule goes like this:

If you’re not living a life of Magic,
I’m not interested in your
comments, input, or advice.

What rules are you loving and living and lasting by?

I’m willing to bet that most of us are letting our mentors and our trainers and our coaches appear by chance (no, really, it’s chance because you’re aren’t participating in the success of find them in the first place) and then chosen by hunch (no, really, you’re making choices based on incomplete information, feelings, and notions rather than solid information). I think you all know that there are far too many supposed experts who, when you dig below the surface, aren’t what they seem to be.

There’s a better way.

And that’s to simply find those people who are actually and already doing what you want to be doing.

Do some homework.

Then connect with them.

By the way, one of the best ways to connect with people is by figuring out what you have to offer them to make them feel better (it’s what we all want, after all). That’s a far different approach and intent to making friends and partnering with someone than coming at it with a scheme to get all you can, suck them dry of their life’s work, and move on to the next shiny thing.

Now . . . back to our regularly scheduled article . . .

While you’re in the process of designing and creating your coveted coaching relationship, you might want to consider using the following three sources to provide you with wizardly inspiration, keep you enchantedly motivated, and light a fire under your magical ass (remember, Knowledge is not Magic. Doing is Magic).

These three very practical and immediately useable resources are not meant to be exhaustive (naturally). They are not meant to be exclusive (nothing is). They are meant to give you some of the same resource material that I rely on so you, too, can continue forward with your choice to live a life filled with Magic!

Lost your motivation or direction? Get some one-stop rocket fuel right here.

Many of you know the name, Guy Kawasaki. Many of you don’t know that he is responsible for a wonderful article aggregator called Alltop. From Alltop’s own description of its Purpose: “The purpose of Alltop is to help you answer the question, ‘What’s happening?’ in ‘all the topics’ that interest you. . . . We do this by collecting the headlines of the latest stories from the best sites and blogs that cover a topic.’”

Check out >>>

There you will find items from zenhabits, Gretchen Rubin, Daily Inspiration, and even me!

How to brand your Magic so others find you unforgettable.

I’ve written and spoken about this before. Without an audience, your Magic has no place to express itself. You need an audience. And you need to take control over that audience, manage your message, and stay relevant. Lots of people tell you to brand yourself, develop your elevator speech, learn to pitch, market wisely through social media, and on and on. Very few of them, however, provide you with any practical methods for developing your content in the first place.

One of my favorite resources is called copyblogger | Content Marketing Mastery. You can find them at >>>

There are certainly paid services and products you can obtain through copyblogger. I think you’ll find the free content more than enough to get you started and keep you going. Copyblogger founder, Brian Clark, is one of those guys who’s doing what he teaches – not just talking hypothetically or philosophically.

Creating a magical tribe is simple. It’s not always easy. But it is simple.

I’ve never been to the World Domination Summit.

I’ve never met Chris Guillebeau.

But I love the concept of the summit. And I love Chris’ approach to life.

In creating your magical life, you don’t have to physically meet each of your mentors or coaches or trainers. You can learn from them through books, online material, and second-hand information.

Take a look at what Chris has been able to accomplish since 2011 >>>

You can deconstruct what Chris (and others like him) have done to create their following, their revolution, and their change in the world.

Now, how can you take these three wellsprings of inspiration and use them in your own world? I’d love to hear and read how these magical tools are wielded by you to create the life of your dreams.

One More Thing . . . would you like to start getting more results, more happiness, and more success? Take a look at my new coaching options by going here >>>

Remember, you can also continue this conversation by subscribing to my blog at or you joining me on any of the major social media sites to take this discussion to an even deeper level.

© 2016 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.