“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation
you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval.
Putting a voice to your soul helps you to
let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”
– Shannon L. Alder
I spend a lot of time, as an attorney, working with businesses developing participation and permission slips for events, field trips, and other activities. These “slips” not only show a person’s voluntary intent to actively take part in “something,” they also authorize, allow, and even sanction certain activities that will take place.
So how does this have anything to do with your success and happiness?
I repeatedly explain to people that they need to participate in their own success and happiness. Too many of us live our lives through absence, hunch, and delay. We postpone what we want while we make certain that other people’s dreams prescribe what we do, how we do it, and even how we feel about it.
Why do we do that?
A lot of it has to do with how we “feel.” Right when we start to really envision how our success and happiness could be if we could have anything we want and before we actually start out on the road to that dream life, we might feel fear. We might feel frustration. We might feel anger. We might feel heartbreak. We might feel [go ahead and fill in whatever you’d like here that, in the past, you’ve felt, thought about, and experienced that wasn’t empowering or useful to you].
Then, before we start off on that road to adventure (or as we just step forward in that direction), we push off the negativity, push down the dark and twisty feelings, push the angst away, and hope that by locking it all in some imaginary closet and giving Time enough time to work its Magic, all the negative feelings or thinkings or experiences will eventually go . . . POOF!
Unfortunately, we both know that the bad feelings, thoughts, and experiences don’t fade away. Oh, we can pretend we’re not giving them much thought. We do whatever we can to be busy so we’re distracted away from those uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, and experiences. We might even become workaholics, alcoholics, drug addicts, etc. to escape it all.
There’s a better way.
Today, you get some freedom. Today, you get some relief. Today, you get to lead your own life and you get to give yourself permission to actually go through the process of participating in your own glorious adventure.
It starts with you going to my FREE RESOURCE page here >>> http://www.thinkingmagically.com/free-resources
Once you’re on that page, you’ll see an image that looks like this:
Click on that image [“A Most Magical Permission Slip”]. That will take you to the full-page image you will need; an image that has three permission slips on it. Download the full-page image (in other words, save it to your computer). Then, using your favorite photo editor, illustration program, or perhaps even an image preview app, print out the image of the three permission slips onto an 8 ½ x 11 inch pice of paper. Don’t be concerned if you only have a black and white printer. Although the image was created in color, you can work through my strategy with a greyscale version of the image.
Now that you’ve downloaded, saved, and printed the image, take a look at this training video >>>
Take the time to think back on all those dreams you’ve had but never acted upon because you were too afraid or too anxious or too angry or too disempowered. Wouldn’t you like all that to be part of the past and not an indication of how you’ll act now and in the future? One of the best ways I know to change your negative response rituals (the ones that are keeping you from being happy and successful, not the ones that are built-in to keep you safe and sane) is to give yourself permission to feel all the “bad” stuff in the first place. Being happy implies that you know what it’s like not to be happy. Being successful implies that you know what it’s like not to be successful. I’ve found that, for me, I have to know both sides—not embrace one and disown the other.
I’m inviting you to start using the Most Magical Permission Slips EVERY SINGLE DAY. Dare to feel fully and be alive and in the moment. Stop stockpiling your dirty little secrets, your “that’s not very nice” thoughts, your feelings of inadequacy, and your sense of unfairness. When you create that type of backlog and reserve of negativity, all you do is invite your subconscious (and eventually your conscious self) to reflect on that fear, worry, and doubt over and over and over again.
So . . . you now have permission. To be successful. To be happy!
Here’s to your ecstatic life!
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