“Being in a relationship doesn’t entitle you to anything.
You don’t get what you expect, you get what you create.”
– Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
The more adept you become as a magician, the more you realize that the act of creating is the cornerstone of everything. As a designer, builder, and mastermind of reality, you will find yourself moving from the question, “What outcome do I want today?” to the deeper and more satisfying inquiry, “What do I want to create today?”
The former presumes you’re entitled to something.
The latter presumes you have the power to make that something into a reality.
When you first start out on the path of a magician, you separate out and sort your effects toolbox into categories of observable outcomes: something disappears, something reappears, something floats, something changes, etc.
As you evolve, however, you inevitably start wondering about the feelings, the emotions, and the experiences you’re creating on the way to each outcome. You discover that the outcomes you want are actually driven and ultimately appreciated by how you and others live and love through the artistic process.
No outcome is worth your magical intention and attention if you can’t enjoy the processes, meet new parts of yourself, or see things in a fresh way.
Magic is about surprise. It is the perfect teacher because, when we see magic happen, we are instantly reminded that we can still be amazed and entertained. The status quo is shaken, the ordinary is jolted awake, and the common is forgotten.
We are inspired to be alive.
It’s no wonder, then, that magic is essential to being. It prompts us to search for a new meaning to what is possible and refine what is not possible. In other words, magic, among other things, gives us hope. And to have hope means we remain optimistic.
There are times when you work your magic — when you create — that you start to feel frustrated and defeated and even disappointed. You might start to think that your magic has stopped working because you’re not experiencing the results you expected.
When these feelings of irritation and discomfort arise, that’s the perfect time to just TAKE FOR GRANTED THAT THE MAGIC IS HAPPENING. Even when you can’t see it for yourself.
If it helps, think of using your magic as you would seeing with your own eyes. If you look in a mirror and glance back and forth from eye-to-eye, you can never see your own eyes move no matter how hard you try. That does not mean your eyes aren’t moving. Someone watching you from the outside, of course, can clearly see you glancing from side-to-side.
There will be times when you just won’t see or feel your magic happening. You must never give up and always presume that the magic is working. You must continue to behave as the master magician that you are.
Surprise is essential to magic.
Even magicians need to be flabbergasted now and then. It keeps things fresh. Just like our eyes continually move and jump and joggle about so that we can see, so to our magic continually will refuse to stand still so that it does not become commonplace. Your eyes continually move about in order to provide fresh images (new stimuli and surprises) to your retina. If your eyes didn’t do this, it’s thought that the things you see would simply fade away. So, too, your magic will never permit itself to become average nor mundane nor cut-and-dry. Your magic will always surprise you — even if that means letting you think, for a short bit, that it’s gone away.
Always presume the magic is there.
It’s essential to your success.
Lang Leav, in her book, Love & Misadventure, wrote:
“It’s so dark right now, I can’t see any light around me.
That’s because the light is coming from you. You can’t see it but everyone else can.”
When you keep reminding yourself that the magic is coming from you, you’ll be patient when you think that it’s gone. Trust me — everyone else can see it.
Take a moment, right now, and find an object that memorializes and represents your magic. How can you use this physical object to constantly remind yourself of your magical powers, purpose, and persona? How can you use this relic to infuse your daily life with even more surprise and wonder and joy?
The truth of the matter is: When you dare to presume that your magic is present, it is always there for you.
Remember to dare.
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