Thinking Magically™ | How I Discovered Instant Fearlessness (and What You Can Learn From It)

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love.
When we are afraid, we pull back from life.
When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.
We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.
If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.
Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in
the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
– John Lennon

As we start this new year, we all automatically do two things — we bring with us the favor of our dreams and the baggage of our fears from last year. And here’s the interesting thing: you can’t have one of those without the other. For in your dreams, your fears are born and carried. In your wanting, you have already recognized what is lacking and deficient and must be avoided. And in your fears, you can identify and thus desire the ambition that is needed or the desire that must be followed to soothe you.

Here’s the interesting thing — if you will understand and admit to and accept and digest your fears rather than run from them, they carry the keys to set you free.

Unfortunately, most of us let fear dictate how our decisions are made, the relationships we have with people, the concessions we make, and the aspirations we follow. That type of baggage has more handling charges than you can imagine.

Here’s a novel thought for you for 2015 — let your decisions, relationships, lines in the sand, and ambition be driven by your desires. Start asking — for everything and everyone you encounter: Does this trigger happiness? Does this trigger magic? Does this trigger abundance?

To put it another way, I’m not asking you to be without fear. I’m not even sure that’s possible.

I’m asking you to be fear-LESS.

Your fear carries the keys to your freedom

During the course of my career as a litigator, I have had to face down some pretty powerful, egotistical, and larger-than-life human predators. And despite the threats, the bravado and swollen heads, my clients have called me unflappable. Does that mean I haven’t been afraid?

You bet I have. And I’ve learned from those timid times.

My clients often face the potential loss of millions and life-changing decisions made by others and they have had their fates turned over to the hands of a broken legal system and the pillagers who’ve learned to play the system. And if my clients lose — I lose because I handle their cases as if I was the client.

Oh yeah . . . I hate to lose!

Because I am such a eager competitor and very aggressive . . . I used to be afraid of losing. Until I learned something —

You can’t make fear go away. Because fear means you want something. And we all want things all the time. If you tell me you don’t want anything, all I have to do is ask you what you’re afraid of. When you tell me that fear, I can instantly tell you what you want (even if you don’t know it yourself).

You always have fear so long as you want something

But you don’t have fear when you KNOW something.

There’s the mighty distinction for you to take into 2015.

When you focus on what you KNOW, there is no fear.

Think on that.

What are the things you truly know? Notice now that there is no fear attached to what is fixed in your heart and soul.

But what about facing the things you don’t know?

How to have instant fearlessness

Here are the 6 Steps to being bold, unintimidated and intrepid for the rest of your life:

1. Be mindful when you feel fear and just what it means. Fear is an emotion. And it comes and it goes on the tide of your physiology and chemical makeup. When it pops up, it usually means you want something. That’s the question to ask: WHAT DO I WANT?

2.  Stay emotionally stable — ‘cuz Shit Always Happens. Nothing is permanent. Change is inevitable. It is one thing to have something and someone. It is quite another to hold it or them. When you “have,” that’s when you know. There is no fear. When you attempt to “hold,” that’s when you want and fear is born. Just keep telling yourself: This too shall pass. It always does. And it always will.

3.  Follow your passions with an “abundance” mindset. Let’s face it — it’s challenging to be fearless when you see scarcity around you and you feel inadequate. It’s time to reconstruct your life so that it’s all about having the bounty and richness you know you were born to have. Follow your passions — not just because they bring you an emotional high — but with the determination that those passions will be lucrative.

4.   Fear doesn’t happen. But you do. Fear is a state of mind. Fear isn’t a tangible object or event or person. If you want to be a massive success, you must take massive (and informed) risks. So you’re scared. Get over it! General George S. Patton once said: “The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That’s the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead!

5.  Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Some fear arises when you say to yourself, “I’m not ready.” Or “I’m not good enough.” Trusting in your own abilities and having confidence in who and what you are comes from experience. And experience is collected over time. Every consistently successful magician knows that powerful magic happens when you prepare, train, and practice ALL THE TIME. Success is not only a habit, it is something for which you prepare. Here’s a challenge for you: Start planning for your future abundance right now.

6.  Better your world and you will better yourself. Gratitude and giving are important elements to the alchemy of fearlessness. There’s a charming side-effect of sharing and being generous and being bigger than life, itself — you come to KNOW that there’s something bigger than just you out there. And with that knowledge and understanding, the fear takes a second seat to what’s truly important. And fear is never truly important (unless it shows up to keep you out of a physical danger).

A real magician will never let the fear of anything overpower their obligation to be successful and their natural and sacred essence. You were born to be a success. How dare you to allow fear to ruin all that?

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© 2015 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.

4 thoughts on “Thinking Magically™ | How I Discovered Instant Fearlessness (and What You Can Learn From It)

  1. Great post, I have always loved the word “fearless”! I am still moving out of a lack mindset and into an abundance and expansive mindset. Often I feel myself drifting back into old ways, but when I am in abundance and faith life truly is magical! Thanks, Sharon

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