But perhaps the chivalry and enchantments of our day take a different course from that of those in days gone by; and it may be, too, that as I am a new knight in the world, and the first to revive the already forgotten calling of knight-adventurers, they may have newly invented other kinds of enchantments and other modes of carrying off the enchanted. What thinkest thou of the matter, Sancho my son?
– Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra, The Ingenious Gentleman Don Quixote of La Mancha
We Are All Knights Errant
Making your mark in the world is one of the most important and satisfying duties you have. You are called to adventure every day. Many of you ignore that whispered voice inside your head that beckons you to your own glory. There are a few of you reading this, however, who whisper back — who raise your hand to the calling and yearn for something more and pledge to make today something more than yesterday was.
No matter how magnificent you might be in the privacy of your own home, the shine of your majesty and grandness won’t be seen by anyone else unless and until you go on a mighty Quest — one filled with romantic temptation and desire. Because, when you have a vision that is both emotionally satisfying and filled with starry-eyed creativity, you become unstoppable.
And the world is better off for your questing.
Are you up for the adventure?
Your Most Honorable Quest Begins
Once upon a time . . . there were stories of high- and marvel-filled adventures. Knights errant went on quests fueled by chivalry, romance, and honor. These wandering heroes searched high and low – literally and figuratively – for wild and exciting and dangerous journey to achieve a worthwhile goal (a person, an object, an outcome, or any combination of those).
Typically, these heroes quested and performed their mighty deeds in the name of a lady. They would conjure up her image and call forth her name before any exploit. Many carried an object from their lady (a locket with her hair, a strip of cloth, a piece of jewelry) as a way of intensifying the magic and purpose of the quest. These purposes and objects performed a mighty task — focusing the intention of the knight errant on a burning desire. Such focus worked a magic all its own. It naturally blocked out that which was extraneous, unsuitable, and pointless to the task at hand.
Indeed, a knight errant’s judgment and ego are very discriminating. Our charm-driven adventurers must be given reasons for giving their valuable attention and action to anything or anyone.
Your Rules of Chivalry Are Born
Even the most highly regarded knights errant were challenged to keep their focus and attention and desire centered. Rules of chivalry — outlining the warrior spirit of the day — were developed, sworn to, and followed. This chivalric code (code of conduct) helped our heroes understand the concepts of gallantry, valor, goodness, and honor.
How many of you have ever stopped to formulate, write out, and follow Rules of Chivalry?
My guess is that many of you have not. Because . . .
• You keep telling yourself you’re too busy to do so.
• Other things are vying for your attention and you keep acting like a firefighter for the small dramas in your life.
• You’ve convinced yourself you have all the time in the world.
• You think you “already know all this” so you don’t have to revisit it now.
• You don’t know where to start.
All of these are obstacles to be overcome. Still, creating and following personal Rules of Chivalry is a lot of work. So, if you’re going to be knight errant, you’ve got to be dedicated and focused.
Try These 20 Rules of Chivalry On For Size
The purpose of adopting a warrior code for yourself is to live a life of respect and honor. Here are some “rules” of you to take over, revise, and let serve as triggers for your own creations.
1. Pay attention to details and to people and to your intent.
2. Treat others with kindness.
3. Show respect for those who are worthy.
4. Say “Please” and “Thank You” and flatter often.
5. Take nothing for granted.
6. Defend the honor of those who matter.
7. Be calm and confident and sexy and enticing in any situation.
8. Have a sense of humor in any situation.
9. Treat your lover like you would a beautiful god or goddess.
10. Honor your faith with conscious purpose.
11. Protect the frail and vulnerable from aggressors.
12. Live for honor and glory and keep them secure.
13. Fight passionately for what you believe in.
14. Inspire trust by always speaking the truth.
15. Have your deeds follow your words.
16. Never start something you aren’t willing to finish.
17. Never turn your back on an enemy.
18. Open people’s minds by opening your own heart.
19. Do not draw back in the face of power.
20. Love and long and live well.
Yes, These Things Work Even Today
Richelle E. Goodrich (Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year) wrote: “My knight may not wear a coat of shining armor, but his code of glowing honor will never fail to protect us both from evils far worse than any fire-breathing dragon.” I wish for you your own “code of glowing honor” — one that makes you brave, polite, gracious, noble, courteous, polite, cultured, kind, diligent, and confident in the face of any enchantment this modern world might throw in your path.
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