“There’s nothing fundamentally wrong with people. Given a story to enact that puts them in accord with the world, they will live in accord with the world. But given a story to enact that puts them at odds with the world, as yours does, they will live at odds with the world. Given a story to enact in which they are the lords of the world, they will ACT like lords of the world. And, given a story to enact in which the world is a foe to be conquered, they will conquer it like a foe, and one day, inevitably, their foe will lie bleeding to death at their feet, as the world is now.”
– Daniel Quinn, Ishmael: An Adventure of the Mind and Spirit
Last week, I described some self-limiting beliefs that plague us. This week, in part two of “Building a Reality That Finally Works,” let’s get down and dirty and discuss some specific steps you can take to change your perception of yourself and the world; a transformation that will necessarily empower you in ways you didn’t think possible.
Would you like to be sexier?
Would you like to be wiser?
Would you like to be more athletic?
Would you like to have more energy?
These are some of the things that people want more of. Naturally, genes and age play a role in all this. However, I’ve also found that your own limiting beliefs can be the most cumbersome hurdle to deal with. Today, we’re going to talk, then, about rebooting your internal mental programming so you can finally start getting what you want out of life. Think of this as the human equivalent of CTRL-ALT-DELETE (for you PC users) and CMD-OPTION-ESC (for you Mac users). We’re going to FORCE QUIT your current thinking and replace it with more satisfying options.
BUILDING A REALITY THAT FINALLY WORKS
Here are my suggestions for you to reprogram yourself so that you open up to a whole new world of possibilities and successes.
STEP ONE. REALITY ISN’T IMPULSIVE – YOU SHOULDN’T BE EITHER. In Part One we discussed how most of us are already living very impulse driven lives. Slow down a little. By delaying your reactions you can start responding in tune with your dreams and desires. When you are responding – rather than reacting – you remain in control and, most importantly, you continue to act congruently with your overall game plan. When you react, you’re always letting someone or something else dictate what happens.
STEP TWO. CHECK YOUR REALITY CONSTANTLY. When you feel, experience, think, and intuit something get in the habit of immediately asking yourself: Is this [whatever you’re feeling, experiencing, thinking, or using intuition upon] true? By asking this question, you will begin to check whether you’re simply telling yourself a story or not. By the way, this is one of the components to Buddha’s suggestion: “If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.” I suggest you expand that concept beyond speaking to just about everything.
STEP THREE. RUMINATE ON REALITY. Take all the time necessary to really think out what you want your reality to look like, feel like, smell like, and sound like. I suggest you even go so far as to write out your perfect reality in all its glorious detail. There’s power in the written word and in getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper (or a computer screen). There’s also something marvelously freeing when you get your thoughts about reality out into the world and make them concrete by putting them on paper or on a screen.
STEP FOUR. IF YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR REALITY, WHY SHOULD ANYONE ELSE? Here’s something novel for some of you: stop giving other people so much power over you. Stop caring what others think. Perhaps this quote from James Frey will help drive home my point: “If you care about what other people think, you will always be their prisoner.”
STEP FIVE. BE PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR REALITY! If I told you to ACT excited right now, could you show that to me? Go ahead. Do it. Now stop and ask yourself: What you DO to be excited? Not what you felt. Not what you thought. What did your body DO to be excited? Once you are able to fathom out the small actions that add up to big results, you will have built yourself a model that can be replicated all the time.
STEP SIX. REWRITE REALITY. Most great storytellers, writers, playwrights, and screenwriters will tell you that the most important part of their craft is REWRITING. Oh, some of them might just get out a perfect draft the first time. But the chances are even they have been editing in their heads first. Take the time to really focus on where you are right now and give yourself the freedom to change course if your life story needs some editing. And it’s even okay to reinvent yourself from time to time. Some of our most successful role models have done just that. By the way, you don’t have to destroy everything you are all in one fell swoop. If there’s some new role you want to try on for size, do just that. You can be a new person and have a new reality for a few minutes, a few hours, or even a few days to see if this “newness” suits you.
The real goal of building a reality that finally works for you is to give you back control and allow you the freedom and power to participate in your own success. The six steps I’ve given you can be used together or one at a time. Just make certain you keep reminding yourself that reality is yours to fine-tune, adjust, and correct. Enjoy!
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