Thinking Magically™ | How to Use Your Magic Even (Especially) if You’re an Introvert

Shyness is about the fear of social judgments – at a job interview or a party you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting.

                                                                                 – Susan Cain

Something amusing happens when you talk about magic, motivation, and manifesting – you find that there are people very close to you who feel uncomfortable with the whole thing. Not that they are naysayers. Quite the contrary. They are usually your biggest supporters, advocates, and evangelists. But they will tell you that they are an introvert and they just can’t imagine themselves doing what you do or saying the things you recommend.

Here’s the interesting thing . . . most massively successful magicians are really introverts! At their core, they are very happy being alone with their prolific imaginations. The only difference with them is that they have learned to impersonate and integrate the positive attributes of an extrovert. And it’s time you started doing the same thing. Why? What if the simple act of pretending you’re an extrovert helped you to feel better and gave you the potential to be hugely successful? Isn’t that worth it?

I thought so.

By the way, you should know that many of our best performers and some of the most successful people in the world are actually introverts. How’s this for a starting list of Who’s Who: Abraham Lincoln, Emma Watson, Lady Gaga, Eleanor Roosevelt, Christina Aguilera, J.K. Rowling, Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, Warren Buffet, Charles Darwin, Charles Schwab, David Copperfield, Al Gore, Steven Spielberg, Steve Wozniak. Need I go on? You’ve heard of these people because they, like you, learned to turn their inner magic loose on the outside world.

Before I give you the steps for turning your inner-self into a lively and outgoing persona, it’s also important to understand why introverts are so good at conjuring their dreams into reality in the first place. Most importantly,:

1.  They are soul-searching.

2.  They are suitable for a task beforehand.

3.  They deliver.

4.  They are motivated to do more.

5.  They are constantly grooming themselves for the future.

So you see, when you come up to me and say, “I couldn’t possibly do that, I’m an introvert don’t you see,” I will likely smile because I know the truth about you. You are destined for greatness BECAUSE you’re an introvert! Now, all you need are just a few, easy-to-follow skills to take your current disposition and send it outward-bound.

STEP ONE: Find a role model who you think is an extrovert with the positive qualities you want to demonstrate. Notice I did not say find an introvert who you want to model. You already know how to do that. And I did not say find an extrovert who is really an introvert. I simply want you to find someone you think acts like an extrovert (someone lively and outgoing) and who is someone you’d like to model.  Now, make a list of all the positive qualities and actions and attributes you can think of for your new role model. You might also find this exercise helpful:

STEP TWO: Pretend to be confident even when you are in unfamiliar situations. Introverts tend to think a lot. They also like to feel in control on a very deep level. So, when you feel like a stranger in a strange land, it is important for you to catch yourself before you turn too inward. This is the time when you use that list of positive qualities you developed in the first step and put them to use by pretending to be your role model.

STEP THREE: Never let them see your doubts. Perhaps the best lesson to learn here is from a quote by Lady Gaga: “When I wake up in the morning, I feel just like any other insecure 24-year-old girl. Then I say, ‘Bitch, you’re Lady Gaga, you get up and walk the walk today’.” Enough said.

STEP FOUR: Show your optimism and eagerness for life. Part of a magician’s toolkit is the ability to manage their life. This includes a commitment to showing the outside world what you have accomplished and can achieve. People want to see, feel, and hear that you want to be with them. No one likes to be around a downer and pity parties are only good for so long.

STEP FIVE: Get out in the world and do a little less online socializing. I know you need some downtime to collect your thoughts and just be alone. That’s what makes you an amazing magician. Still, if you want to manifest your dreams to an amazing level of success, you have to bet part of the world around you. Now get out there and show everyone your STUFF!

In these five easy-to-master steps, you have all the tools you need to use your inner power for outer success. I can’t wait to hear and read about how you are changing the world.

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2 thoughts on “Thinking Magically™ | How to Use Your Magic Even (Especially) if You’re an Introvert

  1. Great blog as usual, Scott! This is also an interesting synchronicity. I ran across this blog (below) yesterday that addressed this same thing, and he just happens to be a magician as well. This little podcast he guested on is only twenty-something minutes, but really spoke of social anxiety and approaching people…I found it interesting. His next meal depended on his courage to perform.


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