There was my name up in lights. I said, ‘God, somebody’s made a mistake.’ But there it was, in lights. And I sat there and said, ‘Remember, you’re not a star.’ Yet there it was up in lights.
– Marilyn Monroe
There are times when we are all adrift and unsettled. Then our goals come into focus, we become oriented once again, and we set sail towards the horizon of our dreams. Still, we run into obstacles, speed bumps, and snags in the great plan for our success. Let’s explore the five biggest mistakes you can make on your way to attainment.
Mistake #1 – Believing in other people’s blind fears. For you to be massively successful, you will need to be fearless and focused. Most people are afraid of what they don’t understand. If they can’t see the same picture of success that you have, they will readily lend you their vague anxiety hoping to transfer that worry onto and into you. And people don’t usually like change. When you move in the direction of your dreams, change is what you are all about. You now represent what is uncertain. People around you not only become concerned about the challenges you will bring into their lives and their beliefs but how you will make them look in the process. People will tell you their fears so that they feel safer. Whether you call them toxic people or psychic vampires – those who leave you worn out, unfocused, and disillusioned – you must commit yourself to staying away from those who want to suck your dreams out of you just so they feel better themselves.
Mistake #2 – Believing in your own illogical fears. A close relative of the first mistake is accepting that your own irrational concerns are real. It is always amazing the tricks your own mind will play on you in order to derail you from changing. Start recognizing those times when your own thinking will attempt to lead you away from what you want the most. Unless you want to be a slave to your irrational thinking, it is time to start developing a habit of holding yourself accountable for any fears that arise. Every time a fear raises its ugly head, ask yourself, “Is the pain real?” “Is the threat real?” “Is the danger real?” If the answer is “no,” then it’s time to start recognizing the unempowering stories that you are telling yourself. Start to recognize your illogical fears as self-imposed suffering that you can stop in the blink of an eye.
Mistake #3 – Believing that you have to control everything. Let’s get real. You believe you have to control everything because you fear what will happen when you don’t walk around “calling the shots.” Previously, I have talked about successful magicians not being too attached to the “having” of any particular outcomes and, instead, being committed to the excellence of “doing” attainment. Start allowing yourself the luxury and adventure of living a serendipitous life; that of constantly receiving those out of the blue and heaven-sent fortunes. The world is conspiring for your own good. Sometimes, you need to get out of your own way. It’s certainly fine to exert your power in order to make things happen. Just remember that seeking perfection usually leads to stress, inefficiency, and disappointment – the very things you once thought your control-freak nature would remedy.
Mistake #4 – Believing that you’re a fraud. “You can’t do this.” “Who do you think you are?” “You’re a fraud.” “Who are you kidding?” Do any of these sound familiar? These are some of the desperate and treacherous voices in your head that try in vain to keep you from living your dream life. This Imposter Syndrome can easily be overcome by simply ceasing to compare yourself with others and recognizing that you deserve to have and be all that you desire. You see, you erroneously think other people know more about you than you know about yourself. You already have a sense of who you really are or you would not be doing the things that you do. Your gut is fully able to tell you when you are moving int the right direction or not. When you abandon your own personal beliefs and internal power and start following the lead of others (usually as a result of Mistake #1), you start believing you’re not good enough. Trust in your own style, vision, and path forward.
Mistake #5 – Believing that you can get without giving. This mistake is really the easiest of the five to correct because it’s just a change in success strategy. The next time you have a dream of success, stop and ask yourself, “What am I willing to give once I get this goal?” Make certain that what you are willing to give has the same intrinsic value or quality as that which you want to acquire. Then, start giving back right away. Giving creates an intense connection between you and the recipients of your gifts. It also creates a mindset of gratitude and appreciation in you. You are not in this world alone. At some point, you will require help. And above all else, dreams need to be shared.
As you move towards affluence, you will continue to make these five mistakes. However, their impact is lessened now that you know what to look out for. Your ability to rapidly recognize and correct making any of these mistakes could be the deciding factor on just how quickly you realize the prosperity you desire.
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