If it’s free, it’s advice; if you pay for it, it’s counseling; if you can use either one, it’s a miracle.
– Jack Adams
Over the last two weeks we have been visiting Scott’s Recipe for Miracles. The blueprint is:
SECRET ONE: YOUR REAL RESPONSIBILITY IS TO CREATE AN EXTRAORDINARY EXPERIENCE FOR OTHERS.
SECRET TWO: WHAT YOU SAY AFFECTS HOW AN SOMEONE ELSE “GETS” YOU.
SECRET THREE: THE STORY IN SOMEONE’S MIND MUST MATCH WITH THE REALITY YOU ARE PRESENTING.
SECRET FOUR: THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU ARE NOT JUST WATCHING A SHOW, THEY ARE INVESTING THEIR BELIEFS, TIME, AND PASSIONS IN WHAT YOU ARE DOING.
SECRET FIVE: DON’T RUIN THE STORY!
SECRET SIX: BELIEVE!
So, now that a few of the secrets have been revealed, how can you use them to take your audience on a entertaining ride they won’t forget? Here are three of the master strategies that work for me.
THE STRATEGIES FOR SUCCESS
STRATEGY ONE: HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE PEOPLE YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE. Heck, have a love affair with them! Make them feel understood. Make them feel cherished. Let them see your commitment and dedication. Let them feel your passion. If you want to sleepwalk through your life (which I’ve seen some of you do), you are just asking for them to have an affair with someone else. Go ahead, be jealous – they’re your chosen friends and playmates and no one else’s. But . . . you also need to deserve them, as well!
STRATEGY TWO: MAKE YOUR STORY – MAKE YOURSELF – SEDUCTIVE, COMPELLING OR GLAMOROUS. Before you can do this, of course, you have to know what story you are telling in the first place. Carefully and deeply think through precisely what you believe someone with whom you have contact wants to experience. And, carefully and deeply think through what kinds of companions and associates you want to attract. And here’s a reality check: You are not the ideal individual for every person living on this planet. When you establish your target friend, you will instantly know the overpowering story they need to hear from you! Then, and only then, will you be in brilliant control of your own story. And, when you are really in control, you will begin to develop an excited and devoted fanbase.
STRATEGY THREE: START FILLING IN THE BLANKS . . . FOR YOURSELF.
A magical life is . . .
Take a piece of paper and finish the rest of the sentence. Then do it again and write a different answer. Then again. Until you have about 10 different A magical life is . . . sentences. Perhaps you’ve written, A magical life is mysterious. Or, A magical life is inspirational. Maybe you’ve written, A magical life is seductive. Whatever you’ve written is how you will shape the theme and tone of your life. A successful life is not about a strange collection of odd talents that have no context with each other. It is about the systemic relationship you have with your audience (see Strategy One, above). That relationship is built around the sentences you’ve just created.
FINALLY – THE GREAT SECRET
I want to leave you with a Great Secret that I’ve written about in the past, but which bears repeating here. If you want to be truly successful in connecting with your friends and family – heck, anyone for that matter – bring them PEACE. You can do this quite easily by committing yourself to the following principles in creating what you say and do:
Promote their dreams and aspirations
Ease their fears and concerns
Account for their failures and losses
Confirm their suspicions and hunches
Empower their quest
In other words:
Promote their dreams and aspirations – Each and every one of us has ambitions and cherished desires. We are in a unique position to encourage those around us so that we contribute to their further growth and fulfillment.
Ease their fears and concerns – Alas, there is nothing more powerful in most people’s lives than the fears that control them. If you can comfort and allay those imagined pains – those anticipated future ills – you help to provide much needed relief. I believe that, as a magical being, we help others to de-stress, not add distress!
Account for their failures and losses – Most people, when faced with their own lack of success, or confronted with things and people who have been lost to them, fail to realize some of the root causes for those events. Many people, when presented with failure or loss, will deny their own involvement and distract themselves from their own responsibility. Accounting for one’s failures and losses is not about blame. It is about making a statement that transforms a particular chain of events so that it is relevant and understandable, and thus it becomes a true life lesson.
Confirm their suspicions and hunches – It is human nature to believe our own thoughts. Very rarely, do you meet someone who distrusts themselves! As such, we all have impressions, intuition, and instinctive knowing that are constantly flowing through us and – consciously and unconsciously – shaping our actions and beliefs. In presenting your magical skills and mastery, we can delve deeper into someone’s doubts and notions, and either corroborate or negate what has previously been taken to heart and which might no longer serve someone well.
Empower their quest – If I bring nothing else to what I do, it is this!I want the people with whom I interact to recognize their unique qualities, abilities, and gifts. And, I want their own mightiness to be used to create a life of dreams. We are in a singular position to transfer power back to the people we have attracted – the power to not only to complete their adventures, but the power to recognize their dreams in the first place.
These techniques have admirably served me well for a long time. It is with great anticipation for your own, personal success that I now pass them on to you.
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