The Deck of Shadows | (Guest Post) A Three-Step Reading System Using The Dynamic Spreads Deck

September 21, 2014 Leave a comment

He opened the book at random, or so he believed, but a book is like a sandy path which keeps the indent of footsteps.
― Graham Greene, The Human Factor

Today’s Guest Post is from Bill Reichle — creator of The Dynamic Spreads Deck. Bill is going to share with you a 3-Step Process for realigning and reorienting your own life and giving greater depth to any readings you might do.

Take it away, Bill . . .


Guest Post by Bill Reichle

Creator of The Dynamic Spreads Deck

Are you feeling stuck and in need of a bit of assistance, or maybe you’re just pondering the ebbs and flows of your life? Tarot or Oracle decks are a great way of shaking things up and giving you a fresh perspective. And to get the most out of those tools, I’ve come to rely on a 3 step process.

1.    Ask good questions

2.    Welcome and receive the advice (let it really sink in)

3.    Act on the advice (assuming, your “gut” agrees!)

Those instructions are certainly simple, but how you carry them out is another matter. The devil is in the details, as usual. The last step, the follow-through on the advice or inspiration, can be a challenge for many (if not most). But you’re in good hands in that regard, as Scott Grossberg is the master of motivation hacks.

Step 2 is about your reflection and interaction with the cards, a tool for seeking answers and wisdom. There are countless books on this subject so I won’t dwell on this point. You can also checkout an instructional video I made on the topic which uses Scott’s Deck of Shadows and art books as an example of a divinatory tools.

Asking the right questions, is the part that’s been intriguing me lately. I even created a spread deck to support this area of interest. If you’ve ever worked with Oracle or Tarot cards, you’re probably familiar with the concept of a “spread” — an imaginary backdrop of questions (positions) for the cards to be laid upon. For example, if you pose a mental question “what do I most need to know today?” and then pulled a Tarot card to answer it, you’re essentially using a one-position spread.

I liken the use of these divination tools to the notion of speaking with the archetypal old wise woman or man. In the movies, they tend to be silent until you ask them something. If you don’t ask the right questions, you won’t receive the information you most dearly need. And this is how I feel it is when we utilize divination tools.

Knowing the right questions is surprisingly more difficult than you might think, and this will be the focus of this post.
Here are a few reasons why it’s important:

•    Saves time by calling attention to important matters. Using the signal to noise ratio as an analogy, a good question focuses on the signal.

•    Changes your perspective: Interesting questions can poetically shift the way you see things.

•    Places a mirror in front of your face. We often look at others for why we are in the situation we are in, or for why we feel a certain way about something.

Sometimes we need to ask how we played a role in it.

My spread deck — Dynamic Spreads Deck, was designed to make it easier to ask the important questions — to see issues from different perspectives, and to shake things up a bit. It’s a set of 105 cards, with 1 or 2 implicit questions per card. Each question is considered a spread position.

To use a spread deck, you need to first choose the questions you want, then choose and lay down your oracle cards

There are two ways you can select cards from a spread deck.

1.    Spreadcrafting: Look through the cards and actively choose which ones you find appropriate for the issues or concerns you or your client has.

2.    Spreadomancy: Passively choose spread cards, where you’re not aware of what you selected until you turn the card over.

Both methods have their place. First, let’s look at how they can improve self-readings.


Both selection methods for choosing spread cards are effective in self-readings. If there is a known area of your life that could benefit from some support or attention, you can consciously craft a spread with a focus on the specific areas you need to work on.

Spreadomancy, however, is a fantastic way to let the universe (collective unconscious or whatever you call it) prompt you into investigating topics or questions you may be overlooking, but it’s important nonetheless. For anyone who stopped doing self-readings, I think you’ll find yourself falling in love with them again, if you use this technique.

Neuroscientist Dr. Michael Merzenich has said that the brain reduces its complexities of its operations as we age. That is, when you seek an answer, you come up with fewer possibilities. Your view and perspective becomes more narrow. However, we know that an exorcised brain can help combat these loses. Surprises and working outside our norm is like health food for our brain. Spreadomancy can produce surprising and interesting combinations that can have you easily expanding your area of focus. It can have you looking into areas that you may have shut down and stopped paying attention to.

Reading for Others

When reading for others, spreadcrafting is fantastic for people who’ve never had a reading before. A new customer, who isn’t sure what questions to ask, can be assisted by working with the reader to co-create a spread that’s right for them. It gets the customer involved in the process, which has them taking more ownership for how to move forward after they leave.

One of my favorite uses for spreadomancy when reading for others was actually an idea from Scott. After performing a reading using your tried and true techniques, you can conclude the session by randomly pulling a Theme card to see what the Universe wants them to pay attention to. Sometimes the mundane issues your client is focused on is not the same thing as what they should really be looking at.

If you’re interested in learning more about checkout the gallery page on my website.


Thanks, Bill. I really love your Dynamic Spreads Deck. And so do all the people I’ve shared it with.

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Thinking Magically™ | 40 Signs You Might Be a Magician (Part 2)

September 14, 2014 Leave a comment

 “The study of magic is not a science, it is not an art, and it is not a religion. Magic is a craft. When we do magic, we do not wish and we do not pray. We rely upon our will and our knowledge and our skill to make a specific change to the world.
This is not to say that we understand magic, in the sense that physicists understand what atomic particles do whatever it is that they do. Or perhaps they don’t understand that yet, I can never remember. In any case, we do not and cannot understand what magic is, or where it comes from, any more than a carpenter understands why a tree grows. He doesn’t have to. He works with what he has.

- Lev Grossman, The Magicians

Last week we covered the first 16 signs that you might be a magician. Today, we finish up with the remaining 24.

17.  You’re a puzzle solver. You’re a problem solver. You’re a fixer.

18.  You tire of things and people easily when it’s the same “over and over” again.

19.  You’re dependable and loyal. But you’re also full of initiative. Others can trust that you will be a powerhouse when needed.

20.  You don’t believe that magicians walk through walls. You believe there’s always an explainable and doable way around, through, or over something. That doesn’t mean you’re not above letting someone else think you’ve just done the impossible.

21.  Your imagination generally runs wild with all the possibilities that are presented to you on an hourly basis. Your challenge is choosing the possibility that will yield you the most productive results.

22. You believe that rules apply to everyone else – just not you. “Do as you will so long as you harm none,” is a maxim you would do well to follow.

23.  You’ve learned that networking with other magicians is the surest way to perfect your own craft.

24.  You also learned – long ago – there’s nothing new under the sun. However, you also know that, so long as you’re part of the new mix, unparalleled magic can happen.

25. You can be quite narrow minded when it comes to the result you want to manifest.

26.  Magic is seen by others as uncertain, sporadic, and unforeseeable. You, on the other hand, know that magic is controllable, manageable, and inevitable. You’ve learned how to call on your personal magic so that it responds when, where, and as needed.

27. You understand that one of the essential rewards of magic is seeing its effects on others. Still, you savor your time alone.

28.  When you’re fixed on an outcome you want to manifest, you are resolute and stubborn.

29.  You have a select and well-tended group of close friends – the people who “get you.” After all, you are an acquired taste.

30.  You don’t need as much sleep as everyone else. The world is full of magic and enchantment and things waiting to capture your imagination. You can’t wait to wake up to that.

31.  You understand what others need to see to be entertained and consumed and beguiled. You’ve done your study as to the words and body language you need to show in order to cast your spell.

32.  You don’t waste your time with those who would waste your time.

33.  And you feel like you’re running out of time.

34.  There are those who think you’ve gone “around the bend” at times. Hell, you’re a magician. It’s your job to manifest something from nothing and create wonder in the world. If that’s not a bit loopy, I don’t know what is.

35. You don’t just believe in magic, you believe your magical. It’s a calling. It’s a need. It’s more than just a feeling. It’s part of who you are.

36.  You don’t believe in coincidences. Things happen for a reason. And good things happen to you a lot.

37.  You believe that your instincts are most important than all the book learning in the world.

38.  You know that The Matrix, Inception, and Limitless were really documentaries.

39.  The thoughts and visions in your head would be difficult for most people to keep up with. And you’re passionate about each and every one of them.

40. You live and love to spread the magic! You know that magic needs to be shared. And it needs to be used or it moves on.

So – there you have it. 40 signs that you might be a magician. How’d you do?

The world is full of people who don’t or can’t believe in magic. Theirs is a world of reaction, fear, and making do. There are a few of you, however, who have stepped out into the world, exerted your magical wills, and are shaping this place in your own images. Here’s to your continued magical success!

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Thinking Magically™ | 40 Signs You Might Be a Magician (Part 1)

September 7, 2014 Leave a comment

. . . In all there was a rotating cast of about twenty-five: physicists and receptionists and pipe fitters and musicians and undergrads and hedge-fund guys and barely functional, socially marginal nutjobs. . . .
“Some of them came in once a month to work on spells, and some of them showed up at six in the morning every morning and stayed till ten at night, or slept there . . . Some of them were high-functioning in their daily lives, had careers and families and no obvious signs of eccentricity or physical debilitation. But doing magic alongside all that other stuff was a tricky balancing act, and when you lost it and fell you hit the floor hard. Even if you got up again, you got up limping. And everybody fell sooner or later.
“See, when you had magic in your life, it turned out, when you lived the double life of a secret underground magician, you paid a certain price, which was that your secret other life pulled at you always. Your magician self, that loopy doppelganger, was always with you, tugging at your sleeve, whispering silently that your real life was a fake life . . .

- Lev Grossman, The Magician King

A magician is a rather distinctive part of and unusual in today’s world. They believe differently than most people. And they certainly behave differently. In fact, it was Aristotle who said: “No great mind has ever existed without a touch of madness.” Magicians are that strange alchemical mix of greatness and madness.

And, in some respects, it is their belief in existence of magic, in the first place, that keeps the world filled with innovation, imagination, diversion, and originality. Magicians can be seen as rude because they don’t tolerate folly; while at the same time, they understand that it’s absurd to believe people don’t make mistakes (after all, magicians have learned to capitalize on the incorrect conclusions of others).

If you’ve ever pondered whether you’re a magician, take a look at the following list to see if you have what it takes.

1. You are someone who loves to tinker with the norm. You are never content to just leave things the way they are.

2. You hate being someone who copies the words, behaviors, and results of others. And you’re willing to put in the time to make something truly and uniquely “yours.”

3.  You give off the air of confidence (even if you have doubts). You understand that it’s not what you say, but how you’re heard. And it’s not what you do, but how you are seen that will make all the difference.

4. You’re fanatical about your magic. This has nothing to do with capturing value from your life’s work as much as it has to do with creating value for yourself and others. In other words, your magical passion has grabbed hold of you and refuses to let you go.

5. You don’t believe that the impossible exists. In fact, you’re devoted to showing others they need to rethink what is inconceivable.

6. You have the ability to create wonder out of everyday happenings, events, and things. Haven’t you already noticed that people are attracted to you because of what you do and say and how you make them feel?

7. You’ve been known to spend more time honing your magic than you spend with your significant other. In fact, some would say that magic is your secret (or not so secret) lover.

8. You hate following rules. One of your mantras might be “Don’t tell me what to do.”

9. You believe there’s real magic in the world. You realize this might cause others to label you as “crazy.” But that’s okay: if you turned your back on this belief, you would feel like a piece of your soul has been ripped away.

10. You are incredibly competitive – with others and most especially with yourself. There’s always something more that can be demonstrated, achieved, and created.

11. You check to see if there’s a “disturbance in the Force” throughout the day.

12. Much of what you do is for the sheer love of “doing magic.” It’s not always about the money.

13. Your idea of going out and visiting with others is figuring out what magic you’re going to take with you and how much you’re going to show someone else.

14. You’re a control freak. Period.

15. You see the chance to put something to magical use everywhere. The world is simply filled with things and people and happenings that are waiting for your charms.

16. You recognize that your “best” is seen and felt and experienced when people are in your presence – not from what you write or how you’re seen in a selfie or on video.


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Thinking Magically™ | The Secret of Using Magic (Pt 2)

August 31, 2014 1 comment

I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person. Or, he became me.
– Cary Grant

Last week I asked you if you believe in magic. And then I challenged you to use that magic well (after explaining that we all believe in magic to one degree or another).

This week, we’re going to finish up with some questions and answers. So off we go . . . second star to the right and straight on ’til morning . . . and all that . . .


What gives a magician fortitude?

You develop this just like you develop everything else that’s worth your time and effort: by staying positive and powerfully minded. By paying attention to how you talk to yourself. And by choosing to participate in your own successes.

Start taking on the habits of successful professional athletes. These might include:

1. Keep exploring “why” things happen for you. This keeps you from becoming complacent – the killer of every dream you might have.

2. Set tough and uneasy goals. You become competent by staying uncomfortable (this will also keep you from being complacent, by the way).

3. Don’t be stupid. I want you to keep testing limits and boundaries and beliefs. I want you to achieve what others believe to be impossible. There’s a difference between that and being absurd. Only you know the real difference for you. But deep down inside you “know.” Pay attention to that difference.

4.  Always be ready. Every successful magician will tell you how much they have practiced and honed their skills just so they can use one skill at one time. It becomes a response, not a reaction.

5. Say and do. Your word – to yourself and to others – is your pledge, your solemn oath. When you say and don’t do, you are training yourself to believe that it’s okay if you don’t keep your word. When you hold yourself accountable for all you say so that you do what you promise, your performance takes on a whole new level of charm.

Why do you think some magicians fail and go back to their old way of life?

Shit happens. All the time. At least it’s easy to think that. And life is filled with challenges. In fact, I believe we actually seek them out: both the challenges and the shit. The problem happens when so-called magicians bring a sense of entitlement into the game with them. When things don’t go their way they essentially give up or throw a temper tantrum, take their ball, and go home. Those are wanna-be magicians. Don’t confuse yourself with them. I’ll say it again: Shit happens. Get over it, under it, through it, or around it anyway you can. Then forget about it (other than to figure out if there’s something you did that caused it so it doesn’t happen again). Move on to the next magical thing and stop staring at your past.

Of course, there will also be times when things do go your way (that’s part of the “Shit happens”). You can put forth your best efforts and best beliefs and best self-talk and still you feel let down or frustrated. Those who give up are those who believe they have to succeed every time, all the time, and that failure is a sign that their personal magic doesn’t work. Your magical job is to give it your all all the time – not to succeed each and every time. You’re not perfect. But you can be excellent in all that you do. There’s a difference.

What are the biggest demands magicians face in developing confidence in themselves and their magic?

This really goes back to the first question, doesn’t it. At a very early age, we “grow out of” a belief in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy. We are told we have to “grow up.” The funny thing is that we never really do any of those things. That’s why we go to so many movies, watch so many videos, read so many books. Because there’s a part of us that continues to believe – not only in the magic of life – but in the magic that other people have. When we recognize magic in others, we are really recognizing that in ourselves.

The biggest demand, then, is not in developing confidence . . . as it is developing the skills that bring you sense of control.

Perhaps, then, the best way to develop confidence in yourself and your personal magic is to draw a distinction between creating powerful and positive thinking and using your imagination to escape reality. I want you to use your powerful imagination to help shape your reality, not escape from it. And that really brings me to the most important part of creating confidence: the use of your imagination in an affirmative and self-empowering way.

I also want you to stop being persuaded and mislead and duped by others who have their own agendas for success.

There’s always a difference between impossible and unlikely. The interesting thing is when you start exploring what “impossible” really means for you. Many times, what you think of as impossible is really not true. Indeed, I’m asking you to keep a healthy level of doubt or skepticism about everything – even your own beliefs. Keep testing them. And certainly don’t necessarily believe in anything until you have a level of self-confirmation.

Confidence – in yourself and your magic – is about a sense of control. When you have that feeling that you are able to direct or determine your course in life, you develop confidence.

Understand that magic is intended to be fun and to help you excel in life. Start rewarding your efforts and intentions rather than simply focusing on results.

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Thinking Magically™ | The Secret of Using Magic (Pt 1)

August 24, 2014 1 comment

The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.

- J. M. Barrie, Peter Pan


The world is full of magic and those who claim they believe in it. Just ask any 2 year old. Heck, even ask any 3 year old (or adult) who hasn’t had the claimed belief in magic snipped out of them.

So, I’ll ask again: do you believe in magic?

Of course you do.

We all do whether we admit it or not.

As human beings, we all seek hidden meaning in the things that happen to and around us. We look for patterns (consciously and unconsciously).  And we love to be in control.

The belief in magic satisfies all those needs.

And think about this for a moment: Brian Scholl – professor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University and director of the Yale Perception and Cognition Laboratory – once said, “. . .  our visual systems refuse to believe in coincidences.” That means we create connections between our beliefs and what our eyes show us. In some cases, we actually change our beliefs to comport with what we think we see.


So it appears that at varying levels we’re all going to believe in magic to some degree or another. You can call “magic” whatever name you’d like, by the way. It’s all the same thing; that sense of being unique, that secret belief you have a super power, that intuitive ability to relieve fear and distress in yourself and others, and even that potent notion that something you do causes something else to happen.

Even those of you who claim to be disbelievers, I’ll wager, have your quaint and odd little rituals for success.

And I could take up several articles just talking about those of us who hold certain things “sacred” because of what we’ve been taught by others, discovered to to have some esoteric makeup or context that works for us, and what we determined to have some charming connection with someone or someplace we want to make part of us.

All of this, by the way, explains the magic behind placebos and why they work and why they work even when we “know.” WE ALL WANT TO BELIEVE! It seems, in fact, that the ritual behind the giving and taking of placebos is the real magic that makes them work.

With that in mind, I thought it might be helpful to set out some thoughts on creating powerful, magical rituals that might help you on your way to creating a life of successes.


I’ve taken some interesting questions and answered them. Perhaps my perspectives will help you form your own answers.

At what stage in your career should you revisit your belief in magic?

Every successful business person I know and have studied and have been mentored by has something in common – they all trust their guts, instincts, intuition, and personal magic. They may call it different things, but it’s all the same. Deep down, inside, they all know they’re still little kids who believe in their own magic.

If you wait until you’re the CEO of the company to start trusting your own insights and instinctive knowing or wait until some “thing” happens in the course of your career to start being more introspective, you’re wasting some valuable time and personal resources. Most importantly, you’re exposing yourself to the risk that you become nothing more than a clone of someone else’s employment ideals, needs, and wants.

Business people, looking to advance themselves in their chosen fields – to be more efficient, more effective, more fulfilled, and successful – should start RIGHT NOW sitting down and examining their own positive self-talk skills and the degree at which they are able to imagine their own success with as much clarity and detail as possible.

If you can’t develop this ability to carefully and deliberately examine your own magical beliefs, then hunt out and hire a magical coach who can help you with that process. After all, it’s your TRUE POTENTIAL that will take you to unbelievable heights, not the dreams and aspirations and potential of others.


Next week, I’ll provide you with some more questions and answers. Until then, start revisiting your belief in magic and what such a belief means to and for you.

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Thinking Magically™ | What Everybody Ought to Know About Kindness . . .

August 17, 2014 4 comments

There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies.
My brain and my heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.
– Dalai Lama


Occasionally, the unimaginable happens.

On Saturday, August 2, our daughter, Jordan, had the wedding of her dreams. On Sunday — at the start of her mini-honeymoon — she and her new husband learned of emergency weather conditions that were threatening their new family home. Their happy celebration of Life ended as they rushed back to their dogs and their home. What was supposed to be the start of an amazing, red-hot life became a nightmare. An unforgiving mudslide had attacked their home, killing both of their dogs, and inundating their yard and back of their house with debris, boulders, and water-soaked mud.

But it got worse . . .

The kids had to undergo the added hurt of digging their dogs’ bodies out of the muddy deluge.

And then they discovered that their insurance company would not cover the damages in any way or at all.


Despite all my social media sharing with you, I hesitated even telling Jordan’s and Jake’s story. Ordinarily, I view these types of events as a private, family matter. But then I realized . . . this is not the time for such selfishness. There’s an amazing story to share with everyone.

As you know, I’m a big proponent of achieving kick-ass results and for setting impossible goals so that you can knock them down and make your dreams a reality. Jordan has done just that. While family is rallying around the situation and providing comfort, care, physical help, and money, Jordan — rather than simply giving up and succumbing to what others might see as impossible conditions — also decided to raise funds on her own.

No one likes to ask for charity. But Jordan faced her fears and her pain and her dread . . . and she did it.

She asked for help.

And the truly awesome and inspiring part of all this is that people answered the call.

With pick-them-up physical labor.

With comforting and selfless donations.

With prayers and blessings from all types of religions and beliefs.

And with much-needed, gentle words of love.

Perhaps what has manifested is best summarized by a friend of mine, Bill Riechle, as he also wrote about Jordan’s and Jake’s situation:

If it were me, I think I would be having that very human response of shaking my fist at the universe – wondering what I did to deserve this. And then on my better moments – I might be looking at the kindness of strangers and wondering… what did I do to deserve this.

All too often we stop caring about others. As a society, we are barraged everyday with invented disasters and manipulated headlines because those “in the know” know people need bad things to grab attention. And so the internet is filled with conjured up drama, overreactions to half-truths, and emotional roller-coasters. We don’t even know what’s real anymore.


Jordan’s and Jake’s story is not make-believe. Life became overwhelming for them very fast. Like many of you, they are good people who are going through sudden and unexpected bad times.

Yet, they are young.

And this, too, shall pass.

And they will be stronger for it.

But what they have discovered most and the reason I am writing about this all here is this lesson:


When you understand their story, you discover that people are amazing.

You discover that people still empathize and sympathize.

You discover that when bad things happen, it’s okay to reach out just to make certain that the world will touch back kindly.

And you discover that Life is too short and that things can change in an instant despite all your best planning.

With those lessons comes a new perspective on . . .

. . . what really matters

. . . and what really doesn’t.


This article, by the way, isn’t just about Jordan and Jake. It’s about me (and you), too. Because I’ve been reminded and learned from all of you, as well.

Thank you.

For confirming that there is real kindness in the world.

Thank you.

For being good souls.

Thank you.

For offering your help and sympathy to total strangers when the world simply got to be too much.

Thank you.

For all of you who’ve donated money to two kids you don’t even know.

Thank you.

For all of you who’ve sent me private messages and emails, re-posted the donation link, and even called me offering sympathy, physical labor, and even more money for the kids than their original fund amount.

I already knew you were incredible. You have taken that belief and made it a reality.

So . . . Thank you.


The events of Jordan’s and Jake’s life have proven that it is possible, with the help of friends, family and even complete strangers, to go out, grab Fate by the throat, refuse to let it go, and bend it to your will.

People survive. And people thrive. And we learn from what’s thrown in our path.

Because the real secret of success is that each morning you must get out of bed, put one muddy foot in front of another muddy foot, dig out from whatever personal bomb has been dropped , and raise a middle finger to the obstacles that challenge you.

When you find someone in need, remember these lyrics from the Frank Sinatra classic, “Cycles:”

I’ve been told and I believe that Life was meant for living’
And even when the chips are low there’s still some left for givin’

There is nothing more precious and valuable than your heartbeats. You don’t get those back. And when you choose to share those with others, you are the essence of what Kindness is all about.

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Thinking Magically™ | Building a Reality That Finally Works (Pt 2)

“There’s nothing fundamentally wrong with people. Given a story to enact that puts them in accord with the world, they will live in accord with the world. But given a story to enact that puts them at odds with the world, as yours does, they will live at odds with the world. Given a story to enact in which they are the lords of the world, they will ACT like lords of the world. And, given a story to enact in which the world is a foe to be conquered, they will conquer it like a foe, and one day, inevitably, their foe will lie bleeding to death at their feet, as the world is now.”
– Daniel Quinn, Ishmael: An Adventure of the Mind and Spirit

Last week, I described some self-limiting beliefs that plague us. This week, in part two of “Building a Reality That Finally Works,” let’s get down and dirty and discuss some specific steps you can take to change your perception of yourself and the world; a transformation that will necessarily empower you in ways you didn’t think possible.

Would you like to be sexier?

Would you like to be wiser?

Would you like to be more athletic?

Would you like to have more energy?

These are some of the things that people want more of. Naturally, genes and age play a role in all this. However, I’ve also found that your own limiting beliefs can be the most cumbersome hurdle to deal with. Today, we’re going to talk, then, about rebooting your internal mental programming so you can finally start getting what you want out of life. Think of this as the human equivalent of CTRL-ALT-DELETE (for you PC users) and CMD-OPTION-ESC (for you Mac users). We’re going to FORCE QUIT your current thinking and replace it with more satisfying options.




Here are my suggestions for you to reprogram yourself so that you open up to a whole new world of possibilities and successes.

STEP ONE. REALITY ISN’T IMPULSIVE – YOU SHOULDN’T BE EITHER. In Part One we discussed how most of us are already living very impulse driven lives. Slow down a little. By delaying your reactions you can start responding in tune with your dreams and desires. When you are responding – rather than reacting – you remain in control and, most importantly, you continue to act congruently with your overall game plan. When you react, you’re always letting someone or something else dictate what happens.

STEP TWO. CHECK YOUR REALITY CONSTANTLY. When you feel, experience, think, and intuit something get in the habit of immediately asking yourself: Is this [whatever you’re feeling, experiencing, thinking, or using intuition upon] true? By asking this question, you will begin to check whether you’re simply telling yourself a story or not. By the way, this is one of the components to Buddha’s suggestion: “If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.” I suggest you expand that concept beyond speaking to just about everything.

STEP THREE. RUMINATE ON REALITY. Take all the time necessary to really think out what you want your reality to look like, feel like, smell like, and sound like. I suggest you even go so far as to write out your perfect reality in all its glorious detail. There’s power in the written word and in getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper (or a computer screen). There’s also something marvelously freeing when you get your thoughts about reality out into the world and make them concrete by putting them on paper or on a screen.

STEP FOUR. IF YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR REALITY, WHY SHOULD ANYONE ELSE? Here’s something novel for some of you: stop giving other people so much power over you. Stop caring what others think. Perhaps this quote from James Frey will help drive home my point: “If you care about what other people think, you will always be their prisoner.”

STEP FIVE. BE PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR REALITY! If I told you to ACT excited right now, could you show that to me? Go ahead. Do it. Now stop and ask yourself: What you DO to be excited? Not what you felt. Not what you thought. What did your body DO to be excited? Once you are able to fathom out the small actions that add up to big results, you will have built yourself a model that can be replicated all the time.

STEP SIX. REWRITE REALITY. Most great storytellers, writers, playwrights, and screenwriters will tell you that the most important part of their craft is REWRITING. Oh, some of them might just get out a perfect draft the first time. But the chances are even they have been editing in their heads first. Take the time to really focus on where you are right now and give yourself the freedom to change course if your life story needs some editing. And it’s even okay to reinvent yourself from time to time. Some of our most successful role models have done just that. By the way, you don’t have to destroy everything you are all in one fell swoop. If there’s some new role you want to try on for size, do just that. You can be a new person and have a new reality for a few minutes, a few hours, or even a few days to see if this “newness” suits you.

The real goal of building a reality that finally works for you is to give you back control and allow you the freedom and power to participate in your own success. The six steps I’ve given you can be used together or one at a time. Just make certain you keep reminding yourself that reality is yours to fine-tune, adjust, and correct. Enjoy!

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