Thinking Magically™ | Magical Intentions for Dealing with the Ordinary

November 23, 2014 Leave a comment

You have to learn the rules of the game.
And then you have to play better than anyone else.
– Albert Einstein

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You don’t learn to live in the world by being a magician
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You learn to live in the world by being in the world.

Your magic — your personal power — might sustain you. Your magic — your confidence — might bolster you. Your magic — your wizardly prowess — might guide and even protect you.

But, in the end, we all need to live together.

Now wait . . .” you must be saying. “Scott, you’ve told us to be rebels, nonconformists, and habitually restless. Now you’re telling us all to just get along. What’s up with that?”

Oh, relax. Take a breath.

I didn’t tell you to all just “get along.”

I said we all need to “live together.”

Also, magic really isn’t very interesting if you’re only entertaining yourself. That’s actually called something else . . . and although they both start with “m,” don’t ever confuse one for the other.

Part of being a consistently successful magician involves meeting, managing, and manifesting the expectations of those around you. That can only happen when you pledge to take responsibility for everything you say and everything you do.

I want you to be rebels because I know, in doing so, you will be morally responsible for the effects of your choices and actions. I want you to be nonconformists because I know you will not tolerate convention and prescripts that are offensive. And I want you to be habitually restless because, as a magician, you already know that nothing is permanent and everything changes.

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Some magical intentions for dealing with the ordinary
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Doing and being all this, however, can be made a little simpler by having some strong, foundational magical intentions already in place. Here are some to consider as you make your way into and through the world —

The world deserves to be left in a better place than when you found it. And the people in it deserve your best intentions and attention and kindness.

Everyone has an opinion. But those opinions are not rules. Only you get to choose the rules that apply to you.

Start realizing that “no” is just a suggestion. And everything is negotiable.

When someone asks you how you’re doing,  tell them “Spectacular!” Then watch their reaction. As an added bonus, feel free to tell everyone, “I do magic,” and then watch what happens.

If you want people to believe in you and your magic, start by actually living like a magician. Authenticity matters. No one likes a fake.

Keep the mumbo-jumbo and magical gibberish to a minimum. Otherwise, it’s kind of like trying to teach a pig to dance. You’ll only waste your time and annoy the pig.

Learn to speak to yourself better. Only then will you learn to speak to others better. And, above all else, say and do.

When people find out about your magic, they will ask you to share it with them, do it for them, use it to get something for them, and cast it to create change for them. This is a perfectly natural response from those who are moving from the material to the magical, themselves.

Despite the fears of many and the wishes of a few, it’s not possible to over-use your magic. Use it early. Use if often. But . . . you don’t always have to be so in-their-face about it.

You will make mistakes. Get over it.

The people around you will make mistakes. Get over it.

There are always more effective and efficient ways to get things done. Keep tweaking your personal system for success.

You are here and now for a reason. The people around you are here and now for reason. That’s not a coincidence.

Always, always, always mind your manners. Say, “please” and “thank you” and “you’re welcome”  with abundant joy.

Honor your fans, followers, and friends. Remember . . . they have a choice, too.

Not everyone likes to be surprised or entertained or have wonder forced upon them. If what you want to do isn’t going to advance someone, it might be a good thing to reevaluate what you plan to do.

You get what you pay for. They get what they pay for. Value yourself accordingly.

Design your illusions and effects and manifestations for them. Not for you. Your illusions don’t work on you.

Stop being a doormat and being afraid of what others will think of your magic. Be bold.

A good magician is a good observer. A good magician is a good listener. A good magician is a good fixer. Observe. Then listen. Then fix.

There are times when you will need to walk behind someone with a broom. Don’t expect, however, that there’s someone sweeping up behind you. Clean up your own crap.

You don’t need to do everything to get everything you want. It’s okay to ask for help.

You don’t have a monopoly on anything. Nothing’s new. Others will replicate your success at one time or another. Therefore, your biggest assets are your relationships with others.

Do epic magic or go home.

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We end as we began
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You learn to live in the world by being in the world.

And you learn to be in the world by putting into place systems of success which will allow you to rely on their rules and their processes and their blueprints for success. Take some or all of the “rules” from above and start putting your own system to work for you.

And make certain you let us know of the successes that flow from this powerful magic.

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Thinking Magically™ | Who Else is Dealing With Discouragement?

November 16, 2014 Leave a comment

You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.
– James M. Barrie

One of my major life themes is simply this: You can be, do, and have every damn thing you want.

The people I work and partner with believe this, too. They embrace it. They live it. They DO IT.

And even though they work their best personal magic . . . some things and people and events don’t manifest as quickly or in just the way as imagined.

Magic doesn’t always work that way.

And — take this to heart — you don’t just wish for something, sit back, and wait for “it” to come to you. That type of habit will ultimately doom you to failure.

Sometimes — no — EVERY TIME — you have to work for what you want. In one way or another. And sometimes you have to be patient and confident. And you always have to make your dream imperishable.

Still, how do you deal with discouragement?

There is a way. Let me share it with you . . .

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YOU KNOW YOU’RE REALLY JUST INTIMIDATING YOURSELF
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Discouragement (as contrasted against rejection) happens when you don’t have a definite major purpose in your life that is clear, focused, and which you believe is attainable.

In other words, it’s easy to become demoralized and downright pessimistic when you put your heart and soul and mighty deeds into something and still feel that you’re at the beck and call of others.

This then causes tension and angst which, in turn, then feeds the disempowering feeling that there’s a lack of control in any given situation.

So, for me — avoiding or overcoming discouragement is all about remembering. It is about reclaiming your belief in yourself, in your vision, and in your own competence.

And, sometimes, you just need an outside cheerleader. I’ve written before about the importance of having an epic collection of supporters, champions, and admirers.

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THERE ARE POWERFUL THINGS YOU ALREADY DO
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You already know what works and doesn’t work FOR YOU.

Revisit your own success strategies, remind yourself how and why those work so well, and then reinsert those specific action items into your life.

I find that most people have a specific way that they “do” discouragement. That’s right — DO. I’m willing to bet there’s something physical you’re doing (or not doing) to manifest the negative feelings. I also am willing to bet that by simply realigning your goals and physiology, you will quickly remedy the situation.

By the way, I also find that discouragement kicks you in the gut most when you don’t have a proper context for success.

Success, as I’ve talked about before, ALWAYS HAPPENS.

The real question is whether you’re taking steps every day to define what that success will be (choosing your own destiny).

Discouragement happens when we don’t feel that we are moving forward in the direction of our dreams. Take a moment and carefully write out — in powerful detail — what you want (as if you knew you could not fail and money was no object). (I’m being totally serious when I challenge you to WRITE OUT what you want. Don’t keep it safe within the confines of your head. You’ll just lie to yourself, make excuses, and continue to let imaginary lines get crossed if you do that.

Purge the dreams so that they spill out of your imagination and onto the page. They become real that way. You are forced to face them. And they then start on their incredible path of becoming true for you.)

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SUCCESS IS A HABIT. SO IS DISCOURAGEMENT. PICK ONE.
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There are times when we all fall into our own dark and twisty place when we believe everything is wrong and nothing will turn out well.

I think that tends to happen when the lack of belief in our definite major purposes exists.

And, I think that lack of belief happens when the voices in our heads start speaking up and reminding us that things aren’t happening quick enough, or powerfully enough, or publicly enough.

You know you are not a failure.

Don’t start dumping garbage in your head. And if you’ve already done that — take out the garbage.

Discouragement can simply be something that you’ve learned to do and experience. That means you can unlearn it quickly and banish it forever.

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HERE’S SOMETHING YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW . . .
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In your mind’s eye, go back and revisit the first time that you felt discouragement. See it. Feel it. Experience it in all its nasty and ill-gotten detail. You must relive it so that you know what it’s like when it’s not there anymore.

That first discouraging event in your life is a powerful moment that can easily become anchored in one’s memory and then become part of a negative habit.

Now, go back 15 minutes in time before that first feeling of discouragement. Where is your discouragement now?
That should have caused you to ponder and ruminate.

In the 15 minutes that followed your LACK OF DISCOURAGEMENT, you did something that caused you to feel discouraged — which in turn created a looping program that has run internally in you ever since.

Keep going back to the time when you felt NO DISCOURAGEMENT and you will begin to rewire yourself.

Now’s the best time of all to decide that discouragement isn’t for you. It isn’t even in your vocabulary any more, is it?

Once you’ve made that decision and you’re ready to move forward with your dreams, let me know how losing “discouragement” has started you on a new road of transformation.

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Thinking Magically™ | The One Question That Will Reset Your Life

November 9, 2014 Leave a comment

I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark burn out in a brilliant blaze than it be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time.

– Jack London

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WE ALL NEED A HUMAN CTRL-ALT-DEL BUTTON
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All of us get stuck. Get lost. Get mired in the day-to-day affairs of Life.

We become so involved in surviving what’s thrown in our path that we forget we don’t have to stay that way. And when we forget our own personal power — our magic — we also lose sight of the fact that we really do know what we’re doing (if we’d only just remember).

If you’ve experienced this — or you’re going through this now — today’s article will speak to you.

I like to start my seminars by telling people I am here to rewire them — to reprogram them — to reset them. Think of me as the Control-Alt-Delete (if you’re a PC user) or Command-Option-Escape (if you’re on a Mac). One of the things I help you do is clear out and address and overcome any challenges you currently have and bring you back to a “normal” (for you) and controlled state of being.

But before this reset can take place, you have to recognize that there’s a problem.

To put it another way, you can’t intentionally reboot your life without intending to interrupt a habit, behavior, thought process, or belief that isn’t serving you well any longer.

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THE ONE QUESTION THAT WILL RESET YOUR LIFE
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Take a moment and review your life exactly as it is right now.

BE DEADLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF!

Appraise all these difference areas of your life:

Your money situation.

Your health.

Your philosophy of Life.

Your love life.

Your connections with others.

Your work.

Now, having reviewed your current situation — how it makes you feel —ask yourself the following questions:

“IS THIS HOW YOU WANT TO BE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?”

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THE FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS THAT WILL MOVE YOU FORWARD
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If the answer to the ONE QUESTION (above) is “yes,” then just keep doing what it is you’re doing. And congratulations.

If the answer is “no,” however (and I’m willing to bet the answer is “no” for nearly all of you), then you need to ask a follow-up question:

“DO YOU WANT MORE?”

When you get to the point in your life when you’re willing to admit your want MORE, the follow-up to that question is:

“WHAT DO YOU WANT?”

Now start writing down all the things you want more (or better) of. Let your imagination, creativity, desire, passion, and need spark what gets put on paper or on your computer screen. You are going to manifest a desired destiny and it starts with being restless and determined to create MORE for yourself and those you care for.

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YOUR LIFE IS ON FIRE — RUN
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Once you have written out — given form, validated, and declared — your dreams, it doesn’t stop there. That’s where most people get caught up. They think that by simply thinking of something — by wanting it badly enough —it will manifest. It might. It might not.

The real secret to creating the life of your dreams is to actually participate in the success of those dreams. That means you have to DO SOMETHING to make the dreams happen.

I challenge you to look at the dreams you have written out and then imagine that your life is on fire. You are either going to burn up or burn out and you have a limited time to make the things you’ve written about manifest into reality.

Now you might be thinking — why not be a firefighter and just put the fire out? Why all the drama?
Well, it’s that type of thinking that got you into the rut, the trouble, and the state of acceptance you were in when we started this discussion.

I don’t want you to put the fire out. I want you to fan the flames!

Perhaps this little story from Rabbi Abraham Twerski, M.D. (http://www.abrahamtwerski.com) will drive home my point:

A village blacksmith’s assistant once visited a large town and sought the local blacksmith. He observed that the workers there used a bellows to fan the flames in the forge. The bellows were much more efficient that the exhausting manual fanning which he did back in his master’s shop. He promptly bought a bellows, returned to his master with great enthusiasm, and informed him that there was no longer any need for them to exhaust themselves fanning the flames. He then set out to demonstrate the magic of the bellows, but alas regardless of how vigorously he pumped them, no flames appeared.
    “I don’t understand it,” he exclaimed. “In town, I saw with my own eyes the huge flames produced by the bellows.”
    “Did you first light a small fire?” asked the master smith.
    “No,” the assistant replied. “I just pumped the bellows like they did in the city.”
    “You fool!” the blacksmith said. “The bellows can only increase the size of the flame when you begin it with a spark. When you have no spark or fire, all the pumping of the bellows is of no use.”

Most of us go through life making the motions and talking boldly about the success we want to have. Very few take the time to hit their own reset button and then make that success happen. Don’t be like all the others. You deserve all the success you can imagine!

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Thinking Magically™ | How to Spot the Non-Magicians in Your Life

November 2, 2014 1 comment

Don’t you dare take the lazy way.
It’s too easy to excuse yourself because of your ancestry.
Don’t let me catch you doing it!
Now — look close at me so you will remember.
Whatever you do, it will be you who do.

- John Steinbeck, East of Eden

All too often we make excuses for the people we surround ourselves with. Doubt that?

Think about your 10 closest friends. Now find the one who is the least productive, the crybaby, the finger-pointer, the drama king or queen, the one who sucks the very life out of you. Now try in vain to rationalize, apologize, and excuse away why you keep going back to that person. More than likely, you justify to yourself the continued offensive or tiring conduct and personality of your friend (or family member).

When you create those delusional defenses, your own life becomes a little less magical.

In case you’re still wondering who the people are in your life who are standing in the way of your success, here are some of the things you’re likely to hear come out of their mouths.

Listen, with care, for these warning signs so that you can either help people out of their non-magical thinking (presuming, of course, they even want help) or stay well clear of their disempowering presence. (Just a quick note: the following excuses are warning signs when they are said “all” the time not just “some” of the time. Think of this as a quick start guide to identifying the people who exhaust—rather than nourish—you.)

1. I don’t understand why these things always happen to me.
Let’s get real. There are some people who are shit magnets. If something bad’s going to happen, it’s going to happen to them. The real challenge with these types is that they refuse to look for and correct the patterns of belief and actions that have tethered them to the little black cloud over their heads.

2.  It’s not my fault.
Real magicians understand that one of the most powerful things they can do is accept responsibility for everything that happens to them. After all, if you’re the problem, then you’re also the solution. And that realization brings with it ultimate control. People who constantly claim “it’s not my fault” doom themselves to continued failure.

3.  That’s impossible (or I can’t).
Richard Bach once wrote, “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.” Successful magicians know that what appears impossible for others is always possible with sufficient desire, belief, intention, and action. When you surround yourself with people who consistently tell you that things can’t happen or particular goals are unrealistic, run like hell in the other direction. Magicians make it part of their DNA to do things no one else has done. And they don’t accept “no,” for an answer, which brings us to . . .

4.  No.
Do you have one or more polarity responders in your life. These are people who disagree with everything you say or do exactly the opposite of what is asked of them. They are the ones who can give you every reason why something can’t be done. Remember: “No” is just a suggestion for magicians—not a definition of reality.

5.  But what will everyone else think?
This is actually a big challenge for most people—wanting to please everyone. In fact, you likely have people who deprive you of your magic because you’ve thought this. Rather than falling prey to this question or surrounding yourself with someone who’s always asking this, I challenge you to start living your life as a rebel: someone who isn’t afraid to show the great independence with which you were born.

6.  That’s not my job (or That’s above my pay-grade).
The real successes you see around you have certain things in common. They are loyal. They are dependable. And they’re willing to go the extra mile! You can’t go the extra mile and say “that’s not my job.” They are mutually exclusive. At the very least, if it’s really not your job and you really aren’t allowed to take action for whatever reason because of company policies, then at the very least help orchestrate a solution if you can’t be the solution.

7.  I know that already.
Successful magicians are always learning and taking in new information. They are like a cup that is continually emptied so that it can hold new stuff. People who are know-it-alls or who are closed-minded usually end up being rude, disrespectful and uninformed. As a successful magician, yourself, you can’t afford to encourage such ignorance because, once you condone it, you open the door for infecting yourself with the same trait.

8.  I’m still working on it (or I’ll get to it later)
Successful magicians get stuff done. They don’t procrastinate. And they set what others see as unrealistic deadlines because they know those deadlines are how things get done powerfully, effectively, and efficiently. When you find someone who drags their feet getting things done you can be sure that they will likely drag you down with them.

ONE FINAL WORD OF WARNING – Non-magicians will argue fiercely that, by not being sympathetic to their plight in the world, you are . . . an asshole. You might want to look at my four-part series, “An Occasional A**hole’s Guide to Being a Decent Human Being” to help steer you though the fallout.

Part 1 - http://scottgrossberg.wordpress.com/2014/04/20/thinking-magically-an-occasional-aholes-guide-to-being-a-decent-human-being/

Part 2 – http://scottgrossberg.wordpress.com/2014/04/27/thinking-magically-an-occasional-aholes-guide-to-being-a-decent-human-being-pt-2/

Part 3 – http://scottgrossberg.wordpress.com/2014/05/04/thinking-magically-an-occasional-aholes-guide-to-being-a-decent-human-being-pt-3/

Part 4 – http://scottgrossberg.wordpress.com/2014/05/11/thinking-magically-an-occasional-aholes-guide-to-being-a-decent-human-being-pt-4/

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Thinking Magically™ | The Art of Actively Living

October 26, 2014 4 comments

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
– Steve Jobs

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We all come to grips with death
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Like everyone, I have had to deal with the death of loved ones. And interfacing with some of the hospice workers involved in those passages has been remarkable. In one instance, a hospice worker said to me: “He’s on a remarkable journey and will be learning lots of things.” I discovered that the journey was really that of everyone involved in the process. And we all learn lots.

Hospice workers have a checklist to determine whether someone moves into the actively dying stage. Relax. It’s not morbid or offensive. It’s a way of tracking the changes that take place as someone moves closer to dying and it is a natural way for them to help ensure that the person in their charge has comfort and dignity.

The dying process begins well before death actually happens. That got me to thinking. How many of us actually think about the process of living? Dale Carnegie once said: “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”

It’s time to stop wishing. And start having.

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We do not all come to grips with living
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I’m going to borrow now from the hospice checklist. And I know that hospice usually refers to the care of the terminally ill. And the term hospice also means a lodging for travelers.

Aren’t we all just travelers at any given time? So that seems appropriate to me.

Borrowing from the hospice checklist then, there are two aspects to living — the Preactive Living Phase and the Actively Living Phase.

Preactive Living is that phase of your life where you take action and make an effort to actually participate in your own life, success, and dreams. This is not about living a life of reacting to things. Quite the contrary, this phase of your life is all about predicting your own future and then creating a life in accord with that anticipation, desire, and belief. This is the time when you consciously plan the changes in your life that will take you from a living a life of loss and reaction to living a life of fulfillment and power. Think of this as the design part of your life.

Actively Living is that phase of your life where you change, adopt, and manifest what you have predicted for yourself. It’s as much about actually producing your Now and Then as it is about actively controlling those things within your control. It is about living a life that might have some obstacles and yet you know that these can all be targeted and vanquished. Think of this as the implementation part of your life.

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Signs that you’re ready to finally enter the Preactive Living phase
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You will begin to notice some or all of the following when you are ready to start predicting and taking control of your life:

1.   You are increasing restless, confused, aroused, impatient, unable to stay gratified about things, and feel the need to take a firm stand about something (even if you don’t know what it is, yet)

2.  The social activities that used to interest you don’t excite you anymore

3.  You have less alertness, feel groggy, and feel like you’re walking through mud or water as you make your way thought Life

4.  You lose interest in those things that used to excite you

5.  You start daydreaming and fantasizing about what another life would look like for you

6.  You don’t just feel like you’re ready for a change — you are starting to say that out loud to others

7.  You find yourself getting sick more often than usual

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Signs that you’re ready to finally enter the Actively Living phase
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Once you enter the Preactive Phase, you will sit down and actually chart out the life you want to have instead of the just getting by with the one you’re living now. I’ve outlined in prior articles how to create the life of your dreams in complete detail. You might want to take a look through my blog for various ideas. Here’s one good place to start:

http://scottgrossberg.wordpress.com/2012/12/02/thinking-magically-dont-like-your-life-change-it/

The Actively Living phase is all about doing. As such, you will begin to notice some or all of the following when you are ready to start LIVING:

1.  An inability for others to negatively influence you or deflect you away from your personal success goal and dreams that will fulfill you

2.  You become a crusader for your own dreams, a maverick of your own thoughts, and somewhat of a nonconformist to others

3.  You find that you are actually breathing easier and have an increased confidence in your ability to handle anything that comes your way

4.  You start taking better care of your health, heart, and habits

5. You have little tolerance for stupid people and those who waste your time with their own little dramas

6.  You are so busy with your own life that you begin to notice an “out of sight, out of mind” situation with those things and people you don’t see or encounter frequently

7.  You stop complaining without also having a solution

8.  You stop complaining and simply take charge

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Stop existing. And start living.
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Actively Living is not easy. Everyone would be doing it if it was easy. But it is a simple concept. And it’s simple to put into practice. Just stop wishing. And start living as if you already have what you want.

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Thinking Magically™ | Knights in Shining Armor Are Needed Now More Than Ever

October 19, 2014 Leave a comment

But perhaps the chivalry and enchantments of our day take a different course from that of those in days gone by; and it may be, too, that as I am a new knight in the world, and the first to revive the already forgotten calling of knight-adventurers, they may have newly invented other kinds of enchantments and other modes of carrying off the enchanted. What thinkest thou of the matter, Sancho my son?

- Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra, The Ingenious Gentleman Don Quixote of La Mancha

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We Are All Knights Errant
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Making your mark in the world is one of the most important and satisfying duties you have. You are called to adventure every day. Many of you ignore that whispered voice inside your head that beckons you to your own glory. There are a few of you reading this, however, who whisper back — who raise your hand to the calling and yearn for something more and pledge to make today something more than yesterday was.

No matter how magnificent you might be in the privacy of your own home, the shine of your majesty and grandness won’t be seen by anyone else unless and until you go on a mighty Quest — one filled with romantic temptation and desire. Because, when you have a vision that is both emotionally satisfying and filled with starry-eyed creativity, you become unstoppable.

And the world is better off for your questing.

Are you up for the adventure?

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Your Most Honorable Quest Begins
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Once upon a time . . . there were stories of high- and marvel-filled adventures. Knights errant went on quests fueled by chivalry, romance, and honor. These wandering heroes searched high and low – literally and figuratively – for wild and exciting and dangerous journey to achieve a worthwhile goal (a person, an object, an outcome, or any combination of those).

Typically, these heroes quested and performed their mighty deeds in the name of a lady. They would conjure up her image and call forth her name before any exploit. Many carried an object from their lady (a locket with her hair, a strip of cloth, a piece of jewelry) as a way of intensifying the magic and purpose of the quest. These purposes and objects performed a mighty task — focusing the intention of the knight errant on a burning desire. Such focus worked a magic all its own. It naturally blocked out that which was extraneous, unsuitable, and pointless to the task at hand.

Indeed, a knight errant’s judgment and ego are very discriminating. Our charm-driven adventurers must be given reasons for giving their valuable attention and action to anything or anyone.

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Your Rules of Chivalry Are Born
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Even the most highly regarded knights errant were challenged to keep their focus and attention and desire centered. Rules of chivalry — outlining the warrior spirit of the day — were developed, sworn to, and followed. This chivalric code (code of conduct) helped our heroes understand the concepts of gallantry, valor, goodness, and honor.

How many of you have ever stopped to formulate, write out, and follow Rules of Chivalry?

My guess is that many of you have not. Because . . .

• You keep telling yourself you’re too busy to do so.
• Other things are vying for your attention and you keep acting like a firefighter for the small dramas in your life.
• You’ve convinced yourself you have all the time in the world.
• You think you “already know all this” so you don’t have to revisit it now.
•  You don’t know where to start.

All of these are obstacles to be overcome. Still, creating and following personal Rules of Chivalry is a lot of work. So, if you’re going to be knight errant, you’ve got to be dedicated and focused.

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Try These 20 Rules of Chivalry On For Size

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The purpose of adopting a warrior code for yourself is to live a life of respect and honor. Here are some “rules” of you to take over, revise, and let serve as triggers for your own creations.

1.  Pay attention to details and to people and to your intent.
2.  Treat others with kindness.
3.  Show respect for those who are worthy.
4.  Say “Please” and “Thank You” and flatter often.
5.  Take nothing for granted.
6.  Defend the honor of those who matter.
7.  Be calm and confident and sexy and enticing in any situation.
8.  Have a sense of humor in any situation.
9.  Treat your lover like you would a beautiful god or goddess.
10.  Honor your faith with conscious purpose.
11.  Protect the frail and vulnerable from aggressors.
12.  Live for honor and glory and keep them secure.
13.  Fight passionately for what you believe in.
14.  Inspire trust by always speaking the truth.
15.  Have your deeds follow your words.
16.  Never start something you aren’t willing to finish.
17.  Never turn your back on an enemy.
18. Open people’s minds by opening your own heart.
19. Do not draw back in the face of power.
20.  Love and long and live well.

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Yes, These Things Work Even Today

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Richelle E. Goodrich (Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year) wrote: “My knight may not wear a coat of shining armor, but his code of glowing honor will never fail to protect us both from evils far worse than any fire-breathing dragon.” I wish for you your own “code of glowing honor” — one that makes you brave, polite, gracious, noble, courteous, polite, cultured, kind, diligent, and confident in the face of any enchantment this modern world might throw in your path.

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Thinking Magically™ | The No-Nonsense Guide to Becoming Invisible

October 12, 2014 Leave a comment

Harry looked down at his body, or rather, what had been his body, for it didn’t look anything like his anymore. It was not invisible; it had simply taken on the exact colour and texture of the kitchen unit behind him. He seemed to have become a human chameleon.

- JK Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

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THE WORLD IS TOO MUCH WITH YOU
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Being passionately driven and acting like a heat-seeking missile all the time is naturally going to draw a lot of attention. Most of the times, others just aren’t that enthusiastic or driven. That can make you the “next shiny thing” all the time. There may be times, however, when being an attraction isn’t going to serve you well. In fact, every good magician will tell you that there has to be sometime when, out of the spotlight, you can take care of the mundane things that will enable the magic to work.

In fact, today’s discussion is all about the arcane power of being unseeable and undetectable.

Don’t believe that there’s power in that?

Well, consider this: when people are asked what magical power they would like to have, one of the top contenders is “being invisible.”

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WHEN YOU’RE INVISIBLE, YOU CAN ACT AT WILL
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There’s an amazing poem by William Wordsworth called “The World is Too Much With Us.” And it begins like this:

The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers;—

Take a moment and think back to a time when there was so much attention focused on you that, quite simply, you were “wasting your powers.” You know those times. Your magnetic personality stood in the way of actually getting the real work done. Your bold accomplishments made you a target for naysayers and competitors. Your status attracted too much publicity that you became the story rather than the outcome of what you desired being the story.

There’s an even bigger downside to the attention you draw — when you are bolstering, nourishing, and feeding the attention of others, there is precious little time for you to take a step back from it all and judge what’s working and what isn’t from the perspective of your desired outcome. The world isn’t just too much with you, the world just becomes too much.

Being a successful magician (being consistent and effective in manifesting your goals) has much to do with attending to your intending. When you have the tools of cover, silence, and disguise, you really can do as you please. Even in the midst of others.

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BEING INVISIBLE IS ABOUT GETTING THINGS DONE
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Some of you must be wondering: “Scott, you always talk about living Life to its fullest and living big and living large. Now you want us to be invisible. What’s up with that?

I’m not suggesting that you “be invisible” forever. Not even for an extended period of time. I want you to understand that — to accomplish your intentions — you may also need to be less conspicuous, less “out there,” less identifiable, at times.

Here’s the interesting thing . . . we are a society that moves so fast, has such instant access to information, and is so impulse drive that, for the most part, we are an “out of sight, out of mind” culture. That means all you need to do to be invisible is just be a little low-key for a short time. Trust me . . . people will move on to the next shiny thing until you appear, again, at just the right time.

So, how do we turn invisible at will (rather than being relegated to invisibility by others)?

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THE “OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND” SYSTEM
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Being invisible is about choosing a response to a given situation, not about a reactive, knee-jerk backlash. This means you need to practice these steps so that they become a mighty tool available for you whenever and wherever you determine. This will allow you the breathing room to make certain you are on track and the inattention necessary to circumvent or surmount challenges.

STEP ONE. DECIDE WHY YOU WANT TO BE INVISIBLE IN THE FIRST PLACE.
Magicians have always been afforded a place of formal power in society. They accomplish things. They are compelling. And they are generally influential. Effective magicians, though, have also learned that informal power — being able to manifest goals without formal recognition —has its place. Think of Merlyn as he guided King Arthur to greatness (or any other king-maker in history). You don’t have to be the center of attention all the time. Take a moment to consider whether a goal would be achieved faster and more competently by you being the power behind the throne for a short while.

STEP TWO. MAKE IT ABOUT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE.
Once you decide that being temporarily invisible will serve you well, it’s time to divert attention off of you and onto someone or something else. This means you need to step outside yourself for a moment and figure out where you want to direction to. If you want to move attention to someone else, figure out what’s important for that person and then do all you can — in words and deeds — to further that other person’s needs and wants. If you want to divert attention to some “thing,” then take the time needed to figure out why others should care about this other “thing.” Then — again, in words and deeds — start promoting this other “thing” so that people can jump on the bandwagon.

STEP THREE. KEEP YOUR INVISIBILITY UNTIL IT NO LONGER SERVES YOU.
Once you achieve invisibility, you will, at once, start seeing how selfish the rest of the world really is (they’ll all deny it, of course — no one likes to think they’re selfish). The interesting thing about being invisible is that you also start to see the opportunists and backstabbers and polarity responders suddenly have the spotlight shifted to themselves. Their real intentions will become transparent and, generally, won’t be able to survive the “heat.” This is your chance to then reappear at just the right time and in just the right place.

It was Sun Tzu in “The Art of War” who said: “O divine art of subtlety and secrecy! Through you we learn to be invisible, through you inaudible, and hence we can hold the enemy’s fate in our hands.” Here’s to you learning to hold your own Fate in your own hands!

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