Thinking Magically™ | Magic Is a Power, Not a Gift: Here’s How to Acquire It (Part 1)

December 14, 2014 Leave a comment

Power is of two kinds.
One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love.
Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent
then the one derived from fear of punishment.
– Mahatma Gandhi

Are you a bystander to your own success?

In addition to blogging and other writing and public events, I also do some very hand-picked coaching of individuals. When someone meets with me one-on-one, one of the first things we talk about and develop is their own personal magical ability and mindset (or lack thereof).

When I ask them what’s keeping them from having what they want RIGHT NOW, I’m often told that they just don’t know how to use their magic (their personal power, personal confidence, personal force) and somehow they’ve come to believe (they don’t know it for a fact — they just accept it — and that’s part of their challenge) that if something doesn’t come true for them then it’s simply not meant to happen.

Essentially, many people are merely bystanders to their own successes.

People are often surprised when I show them how magic is acquired and developed and wielded so that they can stop wishing and start having!

Magic is a power, not a gift

If everyone would just know — not simply believe — that they can develop and use the mind of a magician, their abundance and prosperity and attainments would be predictable and inescapable. But many people think that the secret to success is Luck or just putting in the time or being patient until their ship comes in. While it’s certainly true that “even blind pigs find acorns,” I want you to develop the power of magic so that getting desired results becomes second nature and so you have a system you use to be preactive and proactive rather than remaining a doormat for the dreams of others.

Magic is not just about fanciful desire and powerful wishing and hefty hoping. While there’s a time and a place for those things, the type of magic I show people to exert, maintain and manage results in them having a distinctive and unparalleled ability to wield their intention, power, and wanted outcomes on a planetary scale.

But magic is not a gift. It is not acquired without paying for it. Magic always costs something.

Those who figure out that magic is a power — rather than just making excuses that those who have are Fated to have things and those who don’t have have been relegated to scarcity by some unknown force — find themselves with the ability to communicate their intentions, map out their desired ends, and rule over their outcomes anywhere and anytime. These type of people consistently dominate and lead and make a dent in their worlds.

So . . . would you like to know who has this type of magic?

Each of you.

That’s right. Everyone has this type of magic at one time or another. It usually hits when you stumble upon a great idea, you’re inspired, and then you bring massive emotion and energy together in a creative burst of mastery, exploration, and innovation.

And then it goes away for most of you.

Why do you give up?

Because you’ve come to believe that such type of magic is short-lived and momentary.

When there’s a bump in the road, an obstacle, or a hiccup in your plans, you think the magic has gone away. When there’s work involved . . . you think your magic has failed you.

And the truth is that the magic hasn’t gone away or failed. You have.

You’ve lost your thinking magically mindset and the worldview that sparks powerful decisions.

Here’s the cool part. You can easily learn why your unique brand of magic works and discover how to condition yourself to use magic as a power all the time.

There’s a skill to magic

Let me say it again: magic is a SKILL.

In other words, it’s something that is made better and consistent and reliable through training and exercise and practice. Certainly a personal coach and mentor can make this happen faster. But you are more than equipped to make this journey yourself.

One of the first steps you need to take on this new journey is adopting the belief that the use of your confidence and influence and power is something that can be done. This then becomes the building block upon which your actual understanding and knowledge of your personal magic will be staged.

You also need to adopt the mindset that your personal magic is something that constantly changes and grows and adapts. Magic is not stagnant. It learns from your failures and it rides on the wings of your successes.

Next week we’re going to explore the powerful tactics for actually developing magic skills. Until then, just take some time to examine your current worldview of your own magical powers and whether you think you have any in the first place. To help you, let me leave you with this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power, and with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.

And, let’s take this discussion further, shall we? I’d love to know your thoughts and feelings about this article. Post your comments or create a new conversation on Facebook, Google+ or LinkedIn and together we can create even more magic in the world.

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© 2014 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.

Thinking Magically™ | Most People Roll Their Eyes at Abundance (Part 2)

December 7, 2014 Leave a comment

Not what we have
But what we enjoy,
Constitutes our abundance.
– Epicurus

Your view of the world is constantly shifting

Last week we talked about the basics for acquiring a taste for abundance. Simply, it all comes down to realizing that you have a continuously variable view of the world and what’s possible (and what’s not possible). Because of this ever-loose worldview, what you used to believe was unattainable (e.g., abundance) can easily be transformed into living an abundant life.

All it takes is a lot of dedicated elbow grease. (Notice that I did not say all it takes is wishing or hoping or thinking or praying.) If you want a life of abundance, you have to work at it.

Today, let’s explore some solid methods for making abundance a reality for you.

But first . . .

Abundance doesn’t exist in a vacuum

You need to know that abundance doesn’t exist independently. It isn’t something that is unrelated to something else. Rather, it’s a combination of your experiences. That means — and this is really important to understand — you have to gather together and hoard a large variety of experiences. As the old saying goes, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”

You’ve read this far because you want something different in your life. That means you have to start doing things differently.

Part of living a life of abundance is learning to ignore, dismiss, handle, and shrug off the negativity you will encounter. You must have the intention to turn a blind eye to all the counter-productive irritations that come your way in order to enjoy Life’s benefits.

Let me put it a little more bluntly — if abundance is something you want, then you must commit to seeing that abundance in the first place.

In fact for you polarity responders out there, here’s a little challenge for you: Force yourself to see abundance in every little thing for 21 days. After the 21 days, tell me what’s different now.

In addition to simply dedicating yourself to having abundance, you must also be discerning and use good judgment about what is and is not abundance for you. That only comes by increasing what you know, experience, feel, and want about abundance. Life can be very subtle in what it has to offer. Likewise, abundance is sometimes found in the most unlikely of places and at the most (apparently) haphazard of times.

Simply, abundance becomes less scarce the more you simply embrace it.

How to acquire a taste for abundance

If you’re going to acquire a taste for abundance, you should know what it means. When you live with abundance, you are basking in and savoring the fullness of Life. You are loving where you are with respect to prosperity, health, relationships and opportunities. You are no longer focusing on or being a victim of feelings of absence, deficiency, emptiness, or letdown.

Living a life of abundance is, without a doubt, a complete change in your worldview. And when that worldview transforms, so will the way you make decisions about . . . everything.

So, are you ready for a life of abundance? Here are some suggestions for getting started on an entirely new way of thinking and living and loving and dreaming.

STEP ONE. Slow down a little. Most of use are moving so fast that we have never taken the time to actually appreciate comprehensiveness of everything and everyone around us. If you’re going to live a life of abundance, you must take the time to fill yourself up with richness around you. So . . . take a breath . . . that’s right . . . now take another deep one . . . and just look around you and see what’s out there. How do things and people act and react? How do they interact with each other? Really examine them. Trap them in your memory and start comparing things and people so that you can really notice how they make your feel. Pay particular attention to that “Spidey sense” that tells you when something or someone isn’t right (even if you can’t put specific words to what you’re sensing).

STEP TWO. Do new stuff. In noticing the world around you, you might have some initial thoughts about what you like and what you don’t like. Living a life of abundance means you’re going to be surprised ALL THE TIME. So set those preconceptions aside for the sake of making new discoveries. You must expose yourself to a wide assortment of experience, things, people, and events to increase your ability to truly discover what you enjoy and what you don’t. The world — despite the wishes of many — is not black and white. And don’t relegate yourself to experiences and people who are easily accessible. Some of the most pleasurable experiences will come from those that are exclusive and require work to live through.

STEP THREE. Discover what pleases you. Abundance is not a one-size-fits-all situation. What enchants you, what you admire, what captures your fancy, and what captivates you is unique. Start writing down what you desire, what makes you feel better, what brings you success and what makes you smile. And refer to your list often — not just to supplement it — to relive the memories.

STEP FOUR. Experiment with Life. Once you discover what pleases you, start investigating new aspects of that happiness. The last thing you want to do is create a life that runs on auto-pilot. Always have a certain discontent and restlessness. Be bold with your pleasure. Be strong in your intent to have fun. Be disloyal to the “same old thing.”

With these four simple steps, you can quickly produce a life of abundance — one that is deeply lived and one that is profoundly enjoyed. I can’t wait to read about the new love, happiness, security, serenity, and graciousness that you meet long the way.

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Thinking Magically™ | Most People Roll Their Eyes at Abundance (Part 1)

November 30, 2014 1 comment

Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible.
No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them.
You will receive abundance for your giving.
– W. Clement Stone

Most of us go through life afraid

We are concerned that we don’t have enough money. Terrified that we won’t be able to provide for our family. Unnerved when we’re questioned at or about work. Appalled that we remain the best kept secret in the Universe.

Shaken up.



Aren’t you tired of feeling like that?

Apparently a lot of you aren’t. Because most people just roll their eyes when they hear the word “Abundance.”

But there’s a secret to putting an end to a mindset centered on scarcity and lack. And you’re going to learn it right here — right now.

Abundance is an acquired taste

Imagine a life filled with a bounty — an abundance of the things, people, results, and events that you want.

That’s right. Set aside your self-critical analysis for a moment. Ignore that niggling, whispering, disparaging voice that says “But this isn’t real” or “But you’re never going to have a life like that” or even “But this is all bullshit.”

Imagine in the smallest detail a life filled with luxury, plenty, and wealth.

What does that type of life look and feel like to you?

Take all the time you need to envision precisely what an abounding life for you is like. And make sure to notice how this bountiful life feels compared to the feelings of fear you used to have?

Feels pretty damn good, right?

Now let me let you in on a very big secret:

Abundance is an acquired taste!

And an appreciation and knowing in the REALITY OF ABUNDANCE comes with continued and considerable and meaningful exposure to prosperity and health and love. Most of us, however, have never tasted anything nearing abundance. And thus there is little understanding of what abundance really is. We give lip service to the gratitude we would feel if only abundance really did come our way. Still, it is an admiration from a distance.

It is time to fill the gap between where you are and where you are meant to be.

You can’t enjoy something you don’t appreciate

From this point forward, you must realize and grasp and come to terms with the the fact that you have a personal obligation to live a life of abundance. That is the fastest way you will make the dent in the world you’re gut has been telling you you need to make for a long time.

Does that make you uncomfortable?


Because coming into your own and having real success need not be comfortable. It does require that you get over your fear of “new stuff,” however. If you don’t start thinking outside the box — if you don’t start living outside the box — all you’re going to manifest are the same old things.

Give your old life a break already!

It’s time for you to have a life that is full and overflowing with fun, passion, love, wealth, and health.

And . . .

It’s going to take work. A lot of work. It was Neil Gaiman, in The Sandman, who wrote: “I’ve been making a list of the things they don’t teach you at school. They don’t teach you how to love somebody. They don’t teach you how to be famous. They don’t teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don’t teach you how to walk away from someone you don’t love any longer. They don’t teach you how to know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. They don’t teach you what to say to someone who’s dying. They don’t teach you anything worth knowing.”

And they don’t teach you how to have abundance! In fact, in some instances, you’ve actually been taught that abundance is a bad, bad thing. Something to be disliked and scorned and avoided at all costs.

Well, it’s time to grow up and mature into an abundant lifestyle and mindset. It’s time for you to prefer abundance — not in a theoretical or philosophical way — in a bewitching, charmed, and very palpable way.

It’s time for you to enjoy the intensity of life and seek out all that it is waiting to gift to you.

Now . . . I understand and appreciate that intentionally changing the reality that you think is right before your eyes and altering your belief system can be hard to fulfill. It’s always easier to just leave things the way they are and make concessions and excuses, isn’t it?

I know you’re up for the challenge, though. Because you want more.

The first step in having a life of abundance

So, the first step in having a life of abundance is to make a calculated and intended effort to have such a life. You must (that’s right — “must”) start acting as if you like prosperity in order to develop a taste for it. Only when you develop a penchant for abundancy will you then begin to do it and you justice.

Once you appreciate what a life of abundance really means for you and your family, you then create deeply held knowing and understanding about prosperity (distinguished, by the way, from spurious beliefs in wealth motivated by your ego and instant gratification). That is when your charmed life takes on a whole new dimension.

And you and others will stop rolling your eyes at the thought of abundance . . .

Because it starts being a reality . . .

Next week, we will explore the steps to take to acquire a taste for abundance.

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© 2014 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.

Thinking Magically™ | Magical Intentions for Dealing with the Ordinary

November 23, 2014 Leave a comment

You have to learn the rules of the game.
And then you have to play better than anyone else.
– Albert Einstein

You don’t learn to live in the world by being a magician

You learn to live in the world by being in the world.

Your magic — your personal power — might sustain you. Your magic — your confidence — might bolster you. Your magic — your wizardly prowess — might guide and even protect you.

But, in the end, we all need to live together.

Now wait . . .” you must be saying. “Scott, you’ve told us to be rebels, nonconformists, and habitually restless. Now you’re telling us all to just get along. What’s up with that?”

Oh, relax. Take a breath.

I didn’t tell you to all just “get along.”

I said we all need to “live together.”

Also, magic really isn’t very interesting if you’re only entertaining yourself. That’s actually called something else . . . and although they both start with “m,” don’t ever confuse one for the other.

Part of being a consistently successful magician involves meeting, managing, and manifesting the expectations of those around you. That can only happen when you pledge to take responsibility for everything you say and everything you do.

I want you to be rebels because I know, in doing so, you will be morally responsible for the effects of your choices and actions. I want you to be nonconformists because I know you will not tolerate convention and prescripts that are offensive. And I want you to be habitually restless because, as a magician, you already know that nothing is permanent and everything changes.

Some magical intentions for dealing with the ordinary

Doing and being all this, however, can be made a little simpler by having some strong, foundational magical intentions already in place. Here are some to consider as you make your way into and through the world —

The world deserves to be left in a better place than when you found it. And the people in it deserve your best intentions and attention and kindness.

Everyone has an opinion. But those opinions are not rules. Only you get to choose the rules that apply to you.

Start realizing that “no” is just a suggestion. And everything is negotiable.

When someone asks you how you’re doing,  tell them “Spectacular!” Then watch their reaction. As an added bonus, feel free to tell everyone, “I do magic,” and then watch what happens.

If you want people to believe in you and your magic, start by actually living like a magician. Authenticity matters. No one likes a fake.

Keep the mumbo-jumbo and magical gibberish to a minimum. Otherwise, it’s kind of like trying to teach a pig to dance. You’ll only waste your time and annoy the pig.

Learn to speak to yourself better. Only then will you learn to speak to others better. And, above all else, say and do.

When people find out about your magic, they will ask you to share it with them, do it for them, use it to get something for them, and cast it to create change for them. This is a perfectly natural response from those who are moving from the material to the magical, themselves.

Despite the fears of many and the wishes of a few, it’s not possible to over-use your magic. Use it early. Use if often. But . . . you don’t always have to be so in-their-face about it.

You will make mistakes. Get over it.

The people around you will make mistakes. Get over it.

There are always more effective and efficient ways to get things done. Keep tweaking your personal system for success.

You are here and now for a reason. The people around you are here and now for reason. That’s not a coincidence.

Always, always, always mind your manners. Say, “please” and “thank you” and “you’re welcome”  with abundant joy.

Honor your fans, followers, and friends. Remember . . . they have a choice, too.

Not everyone likes to be surprised or entertained or have wonder forced upon them. If what you want to do isn’t going to advance someone, it might be a good thing to reevaluate what you plan to do.

You get what you pay for. They get what they pay for. Value yourself accordingly.

Design your illusions and effects and manifestations for them. Not for you. Your illusions don’t work on you.

Stop being a doormat and being afraid of what others will think of your magic. Be bold.

A good magician is a good observer. A good magician is a good listener. A good magician is a good fixer. Observe. Then listen. Then fix.

There are times when you will need to walk behind someone with a broom. Don’t expect, however, that there’s someone sweeping up behind you. Clean up your own crap.

You don’t need to do everything to get everything you want. It’s okay to ask for help.

You don’t have a monopoly on anything. Nothing’s new. Others will replicate your success at one time or another. Therefore, your biggest assets are your relationships with others.

Do epic magic or go home.

We end as we began

You learn to live in the world by being in the world.

And you learn to be in the world by putting into place systems of success which will allow you to rely on their rules and their processes and their blueprints for success. Take some or all of the “rules” from above and start putting your own system to work for you.

And make certain you let us know of the successes that flow from this powerful magic.

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© 2014 by Scott Grossberg. All Rights Reserved.

Thinking Magically™ | Who Else is Dealing With Discouragement?

November 16, 2014 Leave a comment

You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.
– James M. Barrie

One of my major life themes is simply this: You can be, do, and have every damn thing you want.

The people I work and partner with believe this, too. They embrace it. They live it. They DO IT.

And even though they work their best personal magic . . . some things and people and events don’t manifest as quickly or in just the way as imagined.

Magic doesn’t always work that way.

And — take this to heart — you don’t just wish for something, sit back, and wait for “it” to come to you. That type of habit will ultimately doom you to failure.

Sometimes — no — EVERY TIME — you have to work for what you want. In one way or another. And sometimes you have to be patient and confident. And you always have to make your dream imperishable.

Still, how do you deal with discouragement?

There is a way. Let me share it with you . . .


Discouragement (as contrasted against rejection) happens when you don’t have a definite major purpose in your life that is clear, focused, and which you believe is attainable.

In other words, it’s easy to become demoralized and downright pessimistic when you put your heart and soul and mighty deeds into something and still feel that you’re at the beck and call of others.

This then causes tension and angst which, in turn, then feeds the disempowering feeling that there’s a lack of control in any given situation.

So, for me — avoiding or overcoming discouragement is all about remembering. It is about reclaiming your belief in yourself, in your vision, and in your own competence.

And, sometimes, you just need an outside cheerleader. I’ve written before about the importance of having an epic collection of supporters, champions, and admirers.


You already know what works and doesn’t work FOR YOU.

Revisit your own success strategies, remind yourself how and why those work so well, and then reinsert those specific action items into your life.

I find that most people have a specific way that they “do” discouragement. That’s right — DO. I’m willing to bet there’s something physical you’re doing (or not doing) to manifest the negative feelings. I also am willing to bet that by simply realigning your goals and physiology, you will quickly remedy the situation.

By the way, I also find that discouragement kicks you in the gut most when you don’t have a proper context for success.

Success, as I’ve talked about before, ALWAYS HAPPENS.

The real question is whether you’re taking steps every day to define what that success will be (choosing your own destiny).

Discouragement happens when we don’t feel that we are moving forward in the direction of our dreams. Take a moment and carefully write out — in powerful detail — what you want (as if you knew you could not fail and money was no object). (I’m being totally serious when I challenge you to WRITE OUT what you want. Don’t keep it safe within the confines of your head. You’ll just lie to yourself, make excuses, and continue to let imaginary lines get crossed if you do that.

Purge the dreams so that they spill out of your imagination and onto the page. They become real that way. You are forced to face them. And they then start on their incredible path of becoming true for you.)


There are times when we all fall into our own dark and twisty place when we believe everything is wrong and nothing will turn out well.

I think that tends to happen when the lack of belief in our definite major purposes exists.

And, I think that lack of belief happens when the voices in our heads start speaking up and reminding us that things aren’t happening quick enough, or powerfully enough, or publicly enough.

You know you are not a failure.

Don’t start dumping garbage in your head. And if you’ve already done that — take out the garbage.

Discouragement can simply be something that you’ve learned to do and experience. That means you can unlearn it quickly and banish it forever.


In your mind’s eye, go back and revisit the first time that you felt discouragement. See it. Feel it. Experience it in all its nasty and ill-gotten detail. You must relive it so that you know what it’s like when it’s not there anymore.

That first discouraging event in your life is a powerful moment that can easily become anchored in one’s memory and then become part of a negative habit.

Now, go back 15 minutes in time before that first feeling of discouragement. Where is your discouragement now?
That should have caused you to ponder and ruminate.

In the 15 minutes that followed your LACK OF DISCOURAGEMENT, you did something that caused you to feel discouraged — which in turn created a looping program that has run internally in you ever since.

Keep going back to the time when you felt NO DISCOURAGEMENT and you will begin to rewire yourself.

Now’s the best time of all to decide that discouragement isn’t for you. It isn’t even in your vocabulary any more, is it?

Once you’ve made that decision and you’re ready to move forward with your dreams, let me know how losing “discouragement” has started you on a new road of transformation.

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Thinking Magically™ | The One Question That Will Reset Your Life

November 9, 2014 Leave a comment

I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark burn out in a brilliant blaze than it be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time.

– Jack London


All of us get stuck. Get lost. Get mired in the day-to-day affairs of Life.

We become so involved in surviving what’s thrown in our path that we forget we don’t have to stay that way. And when we forget our own personal power — our magic — we also lose sight of the fact that we really do know what we’re doing (if we’d only just remember).

If you’ve experienced this — or you’re going through this now — today’s article will speak to you.

I like to start my seminars by telling people I am here to rewire them — to reprogram them — to reset them. Think of me as the Control-Alt-Delete (if you’re a PC user) or Command-Option-Escape (if you’re on a Mac). One of the things I help you do is clear out and address and overcome any challenges you currently have and bring you back to a “normal” (for you) and controlled state of being.

But before this reset can take place, you have to recognize that there’s a problem.

To put it another way, you can’t intentionally reboot your life without intending to interrupt a habit, behavior, thought process, or belief that isn’t serving you well any longer.


Take a moment and review your life exactly as it is right now.


Appraise all these difference areas of your life:

Your money situation.

Your health.

Your philosophy of Life.

Your love life.

Your connections with others.

Your work.

Now, having reviewed your current situation — how it makes you feel —ask yourself the following questions:



If the answer to the ONE QUESTION (above) is “yes,” then just keep doing what it is you’re doing. And congratulations.

If the answer is “no,” however (and I’m willing to bet the answer is “no” for nearly all of you), then you need to ask a follow-up question:


When you get to the point in your life when you’re willing to admit your want MORE, the follow-up to that question is:


Now start writing down all the things you want more (or better) of. Let your imagination, creativity, desire, passion, and need spark what gets put on paper or on your computer screen. You are going to manifest a desired destiny and it starts with being restless and determined to create MORE for yourself and those you care for.


Once you have written out — given form, validated, and declared — your dreams, it doesn’t stop there. That’s where most people get caught up. They think that by simply thinking of something — by wanting it badly enough —it will manifest. It might. It might not.

The real secret to creating the life of your dreams is to actually participate in the success of those dreams. That means you have to DO SOMETHING to make the dreams happen.

I challenge you to look at the dreams you have written out and then imagine that your life is on fire. You are either going to burn up or burn out and you have a limited time to make the things you’ve written about manifest into reality.

Now you might be thinking — why not be a firefighter and just put the fire out? Why all the drama?
Well, it’s that type of thinking that got you into the rut, the trouble, and the state of acceptance you were in when we started this discussion.

I don’t want you to put the fire out. I want you to fan the flames!

Perhaps this little story from Rabbi Abraham Twerski, M.D. ( will drive home my point:

A village blacksmith’s assistant once visited a large town and sought the local blacksmith. He observed that the workers there used a bellows to fan the flames in the forge. The bellows were much more efficient that the exhausting manual fanning which he did back in his master’s shop. He promptly bought a bellows, returned to his master with great enthusiasm, and informed him that there was no longer any need for them to exhaust themselves fanning the flames. He then set out to demonstrate the magic of the bellows, but alas regardless of how vigorously he pumped them, no flames appeared.
    “I don’t understand it,” he exclaimed. “In town, I saw with my own eyes the huge flames produced by the bellows.”
    “Did you first light a small fire?” asked the master smith.
    “No,” the assistant replied. “I just pumped the bellows like they did in the city.”
    “You fool!” the blacksmith said. “The bellows can only increase the size of the flame when you begin it with a spark. When you have no spark or fire, all the pumping of the bellows is of no use.”

Most of us go through life making the motions and talking boldly about the success we want to have. Very few take the time to hit their own reset button and then make that success happen. Don’t be like all the others. You deserve all the success you can imagine!

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Thinking Magically™ | How to Spot the Non-Magicians in Your Life

November 2, 2014 1 comment

Don’t you dare take the lazy way.
It’s too easy to excuse yourself because of your ancestry.
Don’t let me catch you doing it!
Now — look close at me so you will remember.
Whatever you do, it will be you who do.

- John Steinbeck, East of Eden

All too often we make excuses for the people we surround ourselves with. Doubt that?

Think about your 10 closest friends. Now find the one who is the least productive, the crybaby, the finger-pointer, the drama king or queen, the one who sucks the very life out of you. Now try in vain to rationalize, apologize, and excuse away why you keep going back to that person. More than likely, you justify to yourself the continued offensive or tiring conduct and personality of your friend (or family member).

When you create those delusional defenses, your own life becomes a little less magical.

In case you’re still wondering who the people are in your life who are standing in the way of your success, here are some of the things you’re likely to hear come out of their mouths.

Listen, with care, for these warning signs so that you can either help people out of their non-magical thinking (presuming, of course, they even want help) or stay well clear of their disempowering presence. (Just a quick note: the following excuses are warning signs when they are said “all” the time not just “some” of the time. Think of this as a quick start guide to identifying the people who exhaust—rather than nourish—you.)

1. I don’t understand why these things always happen to me.
Let’s get real. There are some people who are shit magnets. If something bad’s going to happen, it’s going to happen to them. The real challenge with these types is that they refuse to look for and correct the patterns of belief and actions that have tethered them to the little black cloud over their heads.

2.  It’s not my fault.
Real magicians understand that one of the most powerful things they can do is accept responsibility for everything that happens to them. After all, if you’re the problem, then you’re also the solution. And that realization brings with it ultimate control. People who constantly claim “it’s not my fault” doom themselves to continued failure.

3.  That’s impossible (or I can’t).
Richard Bach once wrote, “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.” Successful magicians know that what appears impossible for others is always possible with sufficient desire, belief, intention, and action. When you surround yourself with people who consistently tell you that things can’t happen or particular goals are unrealistic, run like hell in the other direction. Magicians make it part of their DNA to do things no one else has done. And they don’t accept “no,” for an answer, which brings us to . . .

4.  No.
Do you have one or more polarity responders in your life. These are people who disagree with everything you say or do exactly the opposite of what is asked of them. They are the ones who can give you every reason why something can’t be done. Remember: “No” is just a suggestion for magicians—not a definition of reality.

5.  But what will everyone else think?
This is actually a big challenge for most people—wanting to please everyone. In fact, you likely have people who deprive you of your magic because you’ve thought this. Rather than falling prey to this question or surrounding yourself with someone who’s always asking this, I challenge you to start living your life as a rebel: someone who isn’t afraid to show the great independence with which you were born.

6.  That’s not my job (or That’s above my pay-grade).
The real successes you see around you have certain things in common. They are loyal. They are dependable. And they’re willing to go the extra mile! You can’t go the extra mile and say “that’s not my job.” They are mutually exclusive. At the very least, if it’s really not your job and you really aren’t allowed to take action for whatever reason because of company policies, then at the very least help orchestrate a solution if you can’t be the solution.

7.  I know that already.
Successful magicians are always learning and taking in new information. They are like a cup that is continually emptied so that it can hold new stuff. People who are know-it-alls or who are closed-minded usually end up being rude, disrespectful and uninformed. As a successful magician, yourself, you can’t afford to encourage such ignorance because, once you condone it, you open the door for infecting yourself with the same trait.

8.  I’m still working on it (or I’ll get to it later)
Successful magicians get stuff done. They don’t procrastinate. And they set what others see as unrealistic deadlines because they know those deadlines are how things get done powerfully, effectively, and efficiently. When you find someone who drags their feet getting things done you can be sure that they will likely drag you down with them.

ONE FINAL WORD OF WARNING – Non-magicians will argue fiercely that, by not being sympathetic to their plight in the world, you are . . . an asshole. You might want to look at my four-part series, “An Occasional A**hole’s Guide to Being a Decent Human Being” to help steer you though the fallout.

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